what are the ways of calming yourself when you get angry
November 28, 2007 12:55am CST
hi folks, this is my 1st discussion in mylot i hope to see a lot of responses to it. my discussion is about anger management only so we are not discussing anger in general like the causes, precipitating factors, bad effects on health and social affairs, ..., etc. i repeat only anger management. to participate in this discussion just answer the following 2 simple questions: 1- what are the ways of anger management that you have heard about? 2- what are the ways of anger management that you have tried and found them effective? 3- what are the ways of anger managment that you have tried and found them ineffective?
28 Nov 07
I think for me it is best to walk away and stay away until I calm down, I think most people say things that they regret in anger and I have done this in the past so today I walk away and calm down before I say something I will be sorry for.
• United States
28 Nov 07
i personally like to put on music, either on my stereo if no one else is around, or on my ipod and BLAST it. not just normal music, but hard music. with screaming and all. i know it's not good for my ears, but it just helps me. weird? haha.
28 Nov 07
Anger is good, but use it to do something that will profit you is even better! When you get angry, remember this phrase: "Don't get angry, just get even!" But of course, you can also try to be a better person by forgive someone that do you wrong. Temperance is a virtue, you can easily "get back" at someone by reply with a "smile" when they try to make you angry...
16 Apr 08
1- I have heard about counting to 10 before reacting to anyone. And taking yourself out of a situation before you do anything you regret. It is important to calm down first. 2- I find taking a deep breath helps and then taking myself out of the situation. To be honest I don't really get angry, usually I get upset. I used to have a real problem with anger whem I was young, but now I have calmed down. 3- I know that being sarcastic doesn't help, or even giving the wrong type of look can wind people up.
• United States
14 Apr 08
When I am very bad, I need to take a deep breath and just walk away, a place where I can think and evaluate the situation better. If possible, a place where I can hear nice music to cool me down!I always do this and its very effective for me, rather than staying in a place and being with the person/s who makes me angry, I might be saying too much that will hurt both of us if I will not stay away for the moment!
14 Apr 08
1. Firstly, just stay away from somebody/something that make us angry. Secondly, we take a deep breath to endure the harsh words come from our mouth. Next, pour your anger into positive things, such as play drum, singing out loudly, and so on. oh, one more thing is I ever read on an artcle, we can scream out, it's good for us if we're in anger. 2. I usually keep silent, don't speak anything..Cuz it can be fatal. It's useful to reduce bad relationship w/ the interlocutor. Or I sing out loudly, to release my emotion and anger, I think it's more effective and positive. 3. The ineffective ways are you say something rudely to somebody you're anger at. Then, You bang the door or break things into pieces. They're not really good for you, even for your relationship w/ the others.
13 Apr 08
I used to have those problems. When I get angry, you just don't want to mess with me especially when i say stop. My face goes red and sometimes I just break everythingon my way...like going berserk and just want to kill anyone who bothers me. I don't remember how many times i beat the crap out of my bf. It sounds funny but it's serious. Sometimes, it's even possible for me to hit the wall and my eyes look murderous. If you are in the same situation as I was, here are some stuff that worked for me. 1. When i argue with my bf and it gets heated up, I simply shut my mouth off and walk away..let him be the foul to talk alone. My bf knows my temper so when he sees me walking away, he just follows and shuts quiet as well lol. When I feel better, I call him back and we discuss more as adults. 2. I was in biochemistry before and it was stressful and hard to understand. Those are a huge factor that gets on my nerves...and I do remember ripping off pages of my biology book in college. But this is an example, so it could be anything which is stressful. take a break!! Go eat a snack, watch a drama, call your friends, play games or do whatever you want for 30 min and come back. 3. Me and my mom do screams at each other sometimes but here...my mom can't take the beating as my bf do. But here we try to use less violence and destruction ok ? :P So I suggest you to buy a good quality headphone and listen to music that relaxes you. Music helps you anger to soothe down. Go with something that is nice and soft. It could be only instrumental, soft pop, or whatever but don't try for hard rock or heavy metal...when i did, it just got me more into my anger mood lol. 4. Whatever is the reason of your anger, you have to control yourself. Destruction and violence is not going to help at all. the best way of all is to cry. All of your emotions goes into tears. Cry all you want and you will feel better afterwards. It's really bad to keep everything for yourself so let it out. So this is my life experience...I started to be an angry girl at the age of 19 but got better now at 21...it's been a year I have been aable to control myself. Goodluck
5 Dec 07
Well one really good method is count numbers backwards say form 100 to 1...But what really works for me is to imagine a confrontation with the person who has caused the situation.Irrespective of who it is i vent all my anger on this imaginary confrontation and use all kinds of vulgarity in the argument.At the end of it my anger would have reduced by a huge margin and since the argument took place in my mind nobody was hurt either.And then i can coolly deal with the issue.
• United States
5 Dec 07
I think everyone has to manage their angry in ways suitable to them. I would love to just eat junk food. I never eat junk food and if I am mad, I think I'll at lteast treat myself to junk food and that might calm me down. Sometimes yes and sometimes no it doesn't. I also hold up in my bedroom with just my box sets of I Love Lucy and just watch till I calm down. OR my most favorite moive ever - Long, Long Trailer, staring Lucille ball and Desi Arnaz.
1 Dec 07
Depending on the situation I try not to get angry and if I do I try not to show it. If I can I will walk away from the discussion and try to forget or ignore it. If I can I will take a long hot bubble bath or go for a run on my treadmill. I don't get angry very often thoush, so anger management is not really a problem for me.
30 Nov 07
when you feel like you're temper is starting to flare...stop...pause...think of anything but that person/thing that make you angry...
29 Nov 07
Everytime when others said something hurt me,I become angry and hate the people very much.I am not only angry with the people,but with me.Why should I so easy to become angry ? Fortunately,I can get well qucikly.For when I find something make me angry ,I will take a deep breathy and go to other places where I can calm me down,and slowly think about the whole things.At then ,I will find the thing isn't so bad that I should let me angry.For we everybody has one more choices ,we can think about one thing with two side and we would find we aren't angry any more. Take it easy!Everything will be better.