Can you love a friend, even after they stop loving you?

United States
November 29, 2007 8:45am CST
Years ago, I had a best friend online. I could tell her anything. We would chat for hours online. It was so much fun. She was just like my sister. I really felt we would be best friends forever. And, then one day, she just flipped out and told me that I'd betrayed her and she didn't want to talk to me anymore. The whole thing happened over some silly misunderstanding. Or, at least I think it did. She gave some bogus reason that didn't make sense. I tried to mend fences, but she didn't ever speak to me again. I spent four months grieving that friendship and wishing that she would forgive me for whatever wrong, (perceived or real) that she thought I'd done. But, it never happened. Sometimes I think of her and wonder how her life is going. But, I'm pretty sure she still won't talk to me. Have you ever grieved over the loss of a friend, even if that person dumped you and told you that they never wanted to speak with you again? Can you still love someone in your heart and miss them, even if they don't want to be your friend anymore? Or, do you just let them go?
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4 responses
• India
29 Nov 07
I would say you can this is exactly what i am doing now.i am loving someone who used to be my best friend and now she says she needs to move away from me,but i cant just leave her like that because i love her very much.
• United States
29 Nov 07
It is so sad when that happens. I still grieve this other friend of mine. She will never leave my heart. If I think about her too much, I will cry.
@lucky_witch (2713)
• Philippines
29 Nov 07
Wll yes. I also have a best friend that really means a lot to me. But because of a little misunderstanding, we parted ways. That is really hard you know. I dont understand why things have to end that way. Even now I am still missing this special friend of mine. and the hardest part is thats the only thing that I can do.
• United States
29 Nov 07
Sometimes friends find their way back to us. Sometimes they don't. Until then, there is often nothing we can do. But, I wish there was.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
29 Nov 07
In the past I use to get all upset over past friendships but over the years I have learned to let them go also. After so many times of being done dirty you get tired of it after awhile.
@joyce959 (1563)
• Philippines
29 Nov 07
Its a natural reaction that we become hurt and sad when a person who we have considered as best friend would be lost due to some misunderstanding. Of course the love for our friend is still there, no matter what happened. There were instances that happened. Of course I miss the time when we're still close. On my part I tried ways to communicate with the friend, although the friendship is not that strong as before. On another case, the friend who did the hurt feeling on my part also tried to communicate with me. It took long before I reconsider our friendship. Time would heal all wounds. After making all possible means to do your way of making up with your best friend and she didnt reciprocate, I suggest you wait for the right time. Time will come that your friend will reconsider your friendship. Good luck.