If your partner cheated on you, will you find someone else? or continue ?

November 30, 2007 11:01am CST
We all make mistakes and sometimes we cant resist the temptation at all, if you find out your partner cheated on you (third party ) would you be very considerate to love him/her more or find someone who will give you love,trust,happpiness and most of all peace of mind ?
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@diillu (5128)
30 Nov 07
Yes, it is really hard to forgive someone whom we love most would cheat on us. And I think that moment would be really hard. As about me I would considerate the situation and I would try to give him another chance considering the circumstances. If it's already gone too deep then it's better to leave and start a new life rather than to spend life with someone who cheated on us. But if the situation is still in control then I would like to control the situation as everyone deserves an explanation and a second chance.
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• India
28 Dec 07
Its very difficult to accept something like this but you need to understand that forgiveness is the best thing although its not easy if you feel your partner accepts his or her mistake you should always give him a chance..Relationship is not a game that if he has done something you should reply in the same way...If you cant be together wish him all the best and part ways....Very important to understand the persons intent as situations might lead him to something wrong but if he is really good at heart u should give another chance
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@jsaidmlt (147)
• Malta
12 Jan 08
I'd try to learn why my partner did it, and if s/he intended to do it again. I'd be more cautious of his/her actions. Fool me once, shame on me. Gool me twice, I kill you :P
11 Jan 08
i think that it all depends on how long you've been in the relationship ... if your partner cheats after only 1 month of being in a committed relationship...I'd have to say move on but if its a partner that you've known for a long time I'd say to give them the benefit of the doubt ... we all have lapses in judgment sometimes.
• China
11 Jan 08
I won't be able to accept the fact that the one I love betray me. You know, she is precisely the one you totally place your trust on. But I will not seek revenge, I know even though I can find another girl in the shortest time, but the new one will usually not be the one I really love. I will give her a chance to go back. But if she really decides to leave me, then, I shall be wise to give up.
@anonymili (3138)
11 Jan 08
There seems to be a lot of people who are very forgiving or recommend that we forgive our partners if they cheat on us or we should somehow take the blame ourselves and make ourselves look better so they don't stray. I personally don't but this. How can you ever fully trust someone again who has cheated on you? I could never do that. I know at least two friends who got STDs after trusting their cheating partners and trying to work at their relationship - one friend is unable to ever have children because of catching an STD from her husband who cheated on her with several women. I think it's disgusting that a man would have so little respect for his loving wife that he would risk this and now she is the one who can never have kids and he wants kids and their marriage is on the verge of breaking up because she can't give HIM kids which is ALL his fault. If you can bear to forgive a cheater then it's up to you but you need to consider yourself. Why should you accept the blame for something that is fundamentally your partner's fault. I'm not saying that it's just men who cheat but whoever cheats and whoever is the victim, think about how and if you can ever fully trust that person again or move on to find someone who will fully respect and love you as you deserve. Good luck :)
@ravinskye (8243)
• United States
30 Nov 07
If my husband cheated I would kick his butt out and that would be the end of our marriage. I know people make mistakes, but that would just be something I couldn't get over. I might be able to forgive him, but I wouldn't be able to forget. I would never feel completely safe with him again. I would always be picking apart everything for signs of him cheating. That is no way to live.