Asking for help from sisiter is wrong???

India
November 30, 2007 11:37am CST
Recently I am in a lot of financial problem , so I asked some help from my sister , whom I met only 5 months ago . she agreed to help but her behaviour has changed after that . Is asking help from her was my mistake , should I have not done that , or is there any other reason behind the behaviour change.I mean I always took her as a sister from my heart , is it the problem that we are not blood siblings, we met over internet . I can't understand the problem , now I don't want any help , I just want that she returns to normal behaviour with me.
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5 responses
@bbsr13 (4198)
• India
30 Nov 07
Hello,sumit! there is nothing to worry.you have requested your internet sister to help you and she has agreed but you are saying that her behavior has changed. it might be a fact that she has no money by this time.but when she has assured you to help,and failed to comply,how she will show her face.will it not be an insult to her?what do you say?so do not worry and do not say her about your feelings.if you are thinking that it may affect your relation then tell her politely that you no more in need of money and as such she should not worry.all the best.
• India
30 Nov 07
thanks for this , i have already told her not to give me now , but i dnt think she might hav shortage of money , but i cant take chance as well.
• United States
17 Dec 07
It may be that your sister wants to make sure you don't make it a habit of asking for money. I have relatives that only speak to me if they want money..and it's not a matter of borrowing..It's can I have ..and you never see it again. I dont mind helping out once in a while..but if I am only talked to when money is needed..that's not blood its banking.
@lele5323 (19)
• China
17 Dec 07
hello sumitsonu!I think it is not your mistake!But money is a sensitive problem! though you are not blood siblings. If you are blood siblings ,maybe her behaviour has changed after that. and do you have promised when you will give her money!
• India
1 Dec 07
first priority goes to family than anyother in the world..anyway ... Regards Harry
• United States
1 Dec 07
One of the biggest things people argue over is money. If she has only known you for a few months, asking someone for money makes people feel uncomfortable. It is one thing to ask for a token for bus fare, but if its a substantial amount of money they may feel like they should not have given the money as they did not know you well enough and think they will never get it back or you have taken advantage of them. When you have known someone for a long time and know them more deeply it is different as you and them probably help eachother generously all the time out of love. It is okay to ask for help, but when you ask for help that is not advice help but financial help from someone you just meant and giving them the money created a hardship for them, their feelings might change.