My son hates reading!

United States
December 3, 2007 1:57pm CST
I am having the worst time trying to get my son to read.He is only got to read for 15 minutes a day (I'm home schooling him)and then also read his lessons ,like Social studies or science,but he hates it, throws fits about having to do it.He's 13 and I hav no idea what to do to get him into it.Do you have any ideas how to get him into it?Plus he is a slow learner, he can't remember things I taught him last week,what tips do you have for this problem like special education types of learning -math and maybe reading? And possibly science. Is there any online sites that helps kids who learns at a slow pace?Any help would be great and welcomed.
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12 responses
@lillake (1635)
• United States
3 Dec 07
First I'd sit down and talk and find out why he hates it. Maybe his eyes are bothering him and makign reading difficult, maybe he's not interested in what he's reading or sees it as a chore rather than fun. If your goal is to get him reading start with making him enjoy it, then move into rading other things. Find books that he's interested in. If he's got special education issues maybe he's not grasping what he's reading, maybe it needs to be brought down a level or two. Also, how are you having him read? Some kids read better outside, or they need to be moving around, or they need silence or music. Find a way that makes the environment more comfortable for him so when he's rading he can be more relaxed. Here's a site with some resources that might help you. http://homeschooling.gomilpitas.com/weblinks/specialneeds.htm and here's a great article http://www.familyclassroom.net/hsboys/articles/6.html
@blueunicorn (2410)
• United States
3 Dec 07
My brother hated reading at that age, too. It turned out that as an adult he loves to read. What made the change? Try to find something that interests your son. What are some of his hobbies? If he likes sports, find books where the main characters play sports. If he likes music, find books about music. In my opinion any reading is worthy. Don't get too hooked on making your son read any particular thing. Even magazines have great articles and are often a way of getting people interested in reading as they are short and to the point. I hope this helps!
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• China
4 Dec 07
What a wise suggestion, I believe it will definitely work. Originally my daughter did not like reading. I try to find her interest. I noticed that she was just interested in the princess stories. She hated reading, that is ok, I don't force her to read, instead I read it for her. Slowly she addicted herself to those lovely stories. She found it unconvinent if I was busy and can't squeeze time for her to read, then she started reading herself. Now she really enjoys reading.
@manya_pearl (1871)
• Singapore
21 Mar 08
I like to teach kids how to read and count. Usually they are not interesting in it, they prefer only to play... they seemed so busy to play... i think your son is not child anymore, he is teen...hmm. All i know, at this age, they are curious more about their environment. They also has unstable emotional... he is starting to have crush and other social relations. Maybe you should build his confidence first, teach him patiently with simple explanation, make jokes, and challenge him to answer your questions. You can also ask tutor for you son, who is age also not that old, so he can be your son's friend. Usually teen more open to the person which is they believed. You can also ask your son, if he is interested to learn any musical instrument or join any sport club. Challenge him if he can do his best to do something good and enjoyable for him... Always challenge him and cheer him, say that you will always proud to see him doing his best.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
19 Mar 08
well, i did not like reading books at my younger age. i just found something that is of interesting to me and that's triggered my likeness to books and stuffs. maybe you can start with books that is very interesting to boys his age. ask him questions and give him rewards for every book he can finish reading and share with you what he has read. that could be a good start.
@carolscash (9503)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I am also a homeschool mom and I have 2 children who don't like to read. My youngest struggles with readins and that is why she doesn't like to read. However, I expect her to learn and she will continue to do it until she can read like I expect her too. My first piece of advice is to take him to a library and let him get the books that he wants to read and then he has to read them as he picked them out. Second of all, take him to the park or somewhere and let him read there. It is always a treat to my daughter to get a chance to go someplace.
@schilds (410)
• United States
17 Mar 08
What kind of movies does he like? A lot of movies are based on books, or the books are based on them. If he can read the book then watch the movie it might be more fun for him. and if he has already seen the movie then it would be easier for him to visualize his characters.
• Pakistan
13 Dec 07
Your son hates reading and you are trying your best make him fond of reading. You are struggling in this respect but your every attempt is going in vain. You can the habits of your sons but you can not change his nature. Ladylily don’t think that he will follow you. He has his own personality. Don’t force or compel him. He is not your son. He is an arrow which is shot the bow was in your hand. Now he is out of the bow and rushing to the target. You can not stop him, nor could change his way. There are many people how could not read and write, but your son can give 15 minutes a day to read. Let his work as he wish. Be a good friend of your son. Don’t be a good teacher. He will feel free when you became his friend and he will start to follow you.
@sky1985 (50)
• China
4 Dec 07
you can speak a story to him,so that maybe he will become to like reading.when your kid ask you something that he want to know,you can tell him that the answer is in the book.that is my idea,i have not have a baby,maybe it is not work.
• China
4 Dec 07
when i was a young child i liked listening storys. My grandpa told me many of them, and later, i listened to radio programs. All kinds of storie always made me forget my lunch. Later, as i grew up, i learned reading. i happily found that i can read not only stories, but also history, since, religion from books. So i liked reading later. from my point of view, force a young child to read something is not so good, and as he grows up,he may hate reading forever. you may make him get interested in something, and encourage him to find knowledge about it, of course, books, reading ,is necessary,isn't it. i hope your child will love reading soon:)
• India
4 Dec 07
No advise really coz I am in the same boat as you. My kid just hates reading out. its been like this for quite sometime now. Initially when he was in the 1st or 2nd std, I would ignore and read out to him instead. I think I spoiled him thus. Now he’s in std 3 and should have been able to read quite fluently but he is too lazy to put in that effort. I too have made it compulsory for him to read and have even gone to the extent that he can read his library books (max 3 to 4pgs) during study time. he is still too lazy but I have become determined now. Your child maybe lazy too without him or you actually knowing it. For maths you can try the abacus, it depicts the simple maths problems visually and is quite interesting for children. You can surf the net too for topics on science as per his age and it would be interesting for him too. I tried this once for English and my son was absolutely thrilled to be able to do something which is not in his books or regular study schedule. Admit him to a library, encourage him to read story books and though you are home-schooling him, encourage him to interact with regular school-going kids, browse thru their books and the like.
@youless (86444)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Dec 07
I think sometimes children need to have an environment so that they will like to learn. For example, my son goes to the kindergarten and there are lots of children there. They have lessons together. I think when the teacher is giving a lesson, some children will like to answer it. Children like to have a competition and it will let them learn faster. Sometimes something I am unable to teach him at home, he can learn it from others in the school.
• United States
3 Dec 07
Perhaps you should find books that more intrest him. Does he enjoy watching comic cartoons? Maybe get a comic book collection. Itmight not be edutucational reading, but it would get him more interested in reading. I had a friend who hated reading and it turns out she was dyslexic, it made reading too hard. Once they learned that, the school system worked with her to help her learn better. Maybe you can find a school system who will allow your son to take a class with them that will help him in ways you say you are having trouble in. Im not saying stop homeschooling im saying maybe ey in addition. They might let you sit in to learn with them too. That way you both learn new technques. Just my thought.