Torn in two

I wish there was some way we could turn off the guilty button when it comes to our kids. Ugh it's just so hard. But hopefully I'll be able to impliment the "special" time more. I'm just really in-consistent becuase I let everything else that needs to get done (house work) encroach apon it. How do you manage to balance it all?

1st of all, you can NEVER get it all done! :) I know the housework is important & totally needs to get done. Make a schedule. Do one load of laundry every day. Vaccum & mop one day, do the bathrooms another day. Make one day the sheets & towels day. Do the dishes as you use them. And sometimes, you just need to letthe housework go a little bit, it's not going anywhere! Have the kiddies help. My daughter puts away her laundry. She sets the table. She's responsible for picking up her room, making her bed, taking hte dirty sheets off her bed, helping sort laundry. I know she's older. My 20 month old helps too. He helps getthe utensils out of the dishwasher. HE hands them to me so I can put them away. He puts his clothes in his hamper. He helps pick up his toys. He wants to help more than he does. I let him put a few things into the dryer from the washer, he shuts the dryer door. Believe it or not, that's Mommy/son time! He loves it!

I kinda got confussed with what you are trying to say. Are you telling me to not worry about loving them diffrently and to not try to love my son like he was a girl and not try to make my girl be a boy? I don't think that my son has a love deficit it's just hard to think that maybe I'm not there for him as much as I should be. Does that make sence?