"Dating after knowing someone thru text?"

Philippines
December 7, 2007 9:48pm CST
Would you date with someone you have only known through texting? Or would you rather stay as textmates? Knowing that you cannot really discern the true personality of the person by text alone but there's also a fear of being disappointed upon being acquianted with someone..
4 responses
• Philippines
8 Dec 07
I don't really like the idea of having textmates more so with the idea of having a relationship from a series of text messages. I think its a waste of time because I believe that around 80% of the messages exchanged aren't true. I think that would work for really desperate people or those who have nothing to do but fool around. But really...there are more important things to do and better ways to have fun than that.
• Philippines
8 Dec 07
Don't you think that texting is one way of increasing your circle of friends? You just need to learn the art of deciphiring of who's to respond to or not. :)
• Philippines
8 Dec 07
true, true. But great discernment is needed to screen the bluffers from the real ones. I just ignore the bluffers but I do treasure real friends through those text messages. But for relationship...that's a big no. I think a personal touch is needed for a relationship. If the other person is really interested, s/he has to go see the other personally so they could get to know more of each other. that's the way courships sposed to be right?
• Philippines
8 Dec 07
Yeah, you're right. There's a lot of deciphiring to do. And it's not that easy.. But, maybe, I think, dating doesn't really mean getting into a serious relationship. You can date with someone as friends, right? But, you must just be extra careful with the person you go with. I still value the conventional way of courship. :-
@irene_27 (545)
• Philippines
9 Dec 07
If i really happen to like my textmate i'd try to go out on a date with him just so i would get to know him better in flesh. But for our first meeting ever i'll make sure to take precautionary measures like have a friend go with me and choose a safe meeting place. As you have mentioned we can't discern the true character of that person so it's better to be cautious in case he happens to be someone evil-minded. I've heard of horror stories like girls dating their textmates and ended up being raped or killed and that's so sad. going back to the topic, i'll be willing to meet him in person just to cast all my doubts about him.This way, i'd know if he's someone worth to be called as my friend. I can't be a friend to somebody whom i know nothing of, it's like talking to a blank wall and for me it's just a waste of time and precious load.
@tryxiness (4549)
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
Me too. I am willing to meet the textmate in person with a friend tagging along. I mean, it is the safest to meet a person. :) Also, meeting your textmate does not leave you hanging like you know asking what if questions. I have lots of friends who fell hardly on their textmates and later they learned that the textmate is in a relationship or who does not fit the description s/he feeds. :)
@chiyosan (29393)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
I have nothing against dating someone you got to know through text messaging or other means, like internet, chat, etc. I have met a few nice and true friends through these technologies too. And one friend I met even lead me to meet my first boyfriend whom I had a relationship with for 3 years.
@lucky_witch (2713)
• Philippines
8 Dec 07
Well, If it's possible but you must be very cautious with that. Have someone to be with you if you decide to meet. If date, well choose restaurant that is located at the mall. Never leave your food unfinished... and watch his every move esp when he is serving foods or drinks to you. As much as possible, do it yourself. It would be better if you have 2 or 3 friends table apart from you or allow them to enjoy malling while waiting for you. This way, your date would think twice before doing anything bad. Or have some couple friends you could make a double date with.