how a wedding ceremony should be

Philippines
December 8, 2007 8:29am CST
Today, I attended a beautiful wedding of church mates. They had a Japanesee-inspired wedding, complete with cherry blossoms and paper lamps. The reception was beautiful! My thoughts on a wedding ceremony: Every couple is different and every wedding ceremony-reception is different as well. It reflects the couple's tastes, personalities and of course, budget. How you work will also determine how long the preparation should be. It took only 3 months to prepare, despite having to manually do a lot of stuff. I didn't have a set schedule for everything, like a wedding planner. I think this is based mainly on how you work-others may take a year to prepare for a simple wedding or 2 months for a grand wedding. Do whatever is best for you and don't be pressured about what others say. God bless your marriage!
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@hillock (749)
• Qatar
9 Dec 07
im not sure im im going to get married but if heavin will allow it i would like to have a non traditional wedding. Like at first, i dont want to wear a white gown! i saw this yellow gown in one of the wedding magazine and i said i would like to have one almost like that! ^-^ i want my wedding to be intimate as well. just close friends and immediate family. i believe that a wedding is a celebration of both of you being one. and on the reception..i guess i'll choose foods that my family and friends love cause my mind wouldnt be at food during my wedding. LOL! ^-^
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• Philippines
13 Dec 07
oh wow! i wonder where in the world is that? by the way, you in the US? hmmm.....oh, i hope you get the best hillock! God bless you! :-) in a chinese wedding, black is taboo, so during my wedding, there is no black. only festive colors.:-) im sure everything will work well and you will be the lovely bride you ever dreamed of. by the way, if you're interested, you can check my wedding photos at flowersbythewayside.com . :-)
@hillock (749)
• Qatar
13 Dec 07
oh im not in the US..im from davao but im here in doha right now. my friend and i were wondering also where on earth it would be. it has to be somewhere in davao cause it was listed on davao section. i didnt know that in chinese black is taboo in the wedding but i already attended a wedding that the motiff is black and white and it is pretty cool. i read your blog and i also check out your wedding photos and all i can say was " oh my!". you look so great on your wedding dress! ^-^ Im hoping i could wear a yellow wedding dress soon! i should keep on praying! cant find a decent guy right now.. he must be hiding cause he knows im looking for him! LOL!
• Philippines
14 Dec 07
thanks hillock! if it is in davao, then i believe it is somewhere enchanting...:-) yeah, i think during my wedding was my prettiest. it was only 6 months ago but now i gained so much weight. i am so fat now, really contented with married life. lol and my hubby doesn't mind either. oh i hope so too, hillock. i am sure you will look great in your yellow dress. i think black and white is nice, too, but for a chinese wedding, it has to be light colors. i chose red and gold, so nobody will go against it. i had to be careful because i am a filipino and don't want my in-laws to be put in a bad light. hope you can share picturess, too. :-)
• United States
9 Dec 07
It's refreshing to see someone that actually thinks a couple should have some freedom in planning a wedding ceremony. Anymore, you have people that are jamming the idea of the traditional church type wedding down everyone's throats and it's frustrating because I think a lot of the church ceremonies are stuffy, uptight and allow no room for creativity for the couple so it's actually something nice for them to remember.
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• Philippines
9 Dec 07
hi there! we had a church wedding because we wanted the marriage to be blessed by a pastor inside the church. but a stuffy wedding ceremony and party was one that we were trying to avoid. we come from a pretty traditional community, my husband is chinese, so a lot of things had to be traditional. but we found a way to make things interesting. for the march, we walked to fast music. and then there were tambourine dancers during the processional and while the contract was being signed. then during the reception, our friends gave wacky dance numbers. instead of flowers, we had balloons, because they were cheap and because the balloons for me seem to signify fun and party. both the ceremony and reception were short, sweet, and fun. and peope had so much fun, especially when they took home the balloons. :-)
@2btrueinu (703)
• Philippines
9 Dec 07
I have attended so many beautiful weddings They were different to one another but they are all beautiful. Many times I dream that I have one of this in the future but it's all depend on budget. Coz I know that It you have enough budget it turn to be a beatiful one I remember one time I watch TV there wedding were so simple, little budget and it turn to beautiful many of there friend help them to have a simple and beautiful wedding. Many of us women dreaming to have one of this but it's all depends..... how I wish that all of us women will experience a beautiful and happy wedding...
• Philippines
9 Dec 07
hi 2btrue! we didn't really have a lot of money when we got married. but God truly provided for us and the simple wedding that i dreamed of turned out to be a grand one. the Lord really provided for our needs. :-)
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• United States
9 Dec 07
I've been planning my wedding for over a year and I'm not even close to done yet.
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• Philippines
9 Dec 07
when's your wedding gloom? :-)
• United States
9 Dec 07
May 29, 2008
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Best of luck planning it and getting it on time Lex. I hope the best happens for you and your S/O
@dianne17k (600)
• Philippines
9 Dec 07
I've been helping a bit on planning my brother's wedding which will be on May 2008. It's just a tiring ordeal and we've only started planning last september and fear that we don't have the time. We've attended wedding and bridal fairs here in Manila and there's one thing for sure in planning a wedding, it involves a great deal of money. After going to fairs, we've listed down a temporary guest list. At first, we came up with 400 guests but had to cut it down to 250. We then started looking for churches in Manila which could somehow fit that 250 guests. Most of the churches are fully booked for the entire year and so we didn't have much choice but to look for more. And for the venue, we searched over Malate and Intramuros areas for 3 weekends to find that perfect venue. And of course, that perfect venue comes with a hefty price but my parents who were paying for the wedding said it fits the budget just fine. It's already December and we only have a few months to get things in order. We still have to worry about the invitations, the flowers, the clothes for the entourage, the giveaways, the rings and about a dozen more stuff to fuss about. It's time consuming to plan the wedding and we're now considering hiring a wedding planner despite the high cost of their services. When I get married, I'll make sure I have at least a year to plan it.
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• Philippines
9 Dec 07
don't worry dianne. everything will turn out fine. my husband proposed to me on dec. 25 2006 and we got married may 27, 2007. we didn't have a coordinator. we made the powerpoint presentation, the invitations, giveaways, and i even beaded my gown and my mother's dress. in the midst of all the preparations, my husband and i had to go on a two-week missions trip abroad. but God is really sovereign and knows what He is doing. He has provided a wonderful wedding for us and we were not harassed at all. so don't worry, lift it up to God and do the rest. He will certainly see you through. :-)
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• Philippines
9 Dec 07
Thanks for the moral support! Happy holidays!
• Philippines
13 Dec 07
sure no prob! you too! :-)
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Thanks for sharing that Spoiled. It sounds very beautiful and I do wish I could have seen it upclose. As for marriage, you're asking the wrong person. I barely have a clue on the matter. Of course I have an opinion though of how one should be. It should be refined, civil, beautiful, a day for both to take home and remember and celebration for the couple, family and friends. Personally I've pictured either a lot of white at a wedding, or a lot of blue and green. I've also pictured outside cermonies. Probably too simplistic, but thats all I could come up with Spoiled.
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• Philippines
13 Dec 07
hey progamer! your rating has increased! maybe my rating you has helped. lol
@fanji008 (782)
• China
9 Dec 07
Hi,there! I also attened a wedding ceremony today.The groom is my colleague.It was held in a big hotel and they decorated the hall pretty nicely. They had some special designs for their wedding photos and the party.Many friends came to the wedding to send their best wishes to the bride and groom.I don't think there's a fixed answer for how a wedding ceremony should be.As the marriage is the two's,so as long as they like the design,then they can carry it out:) I think every wedding ceremony is beautiful no matter how they design it:) Best wishes for all the brides and grooms.Thanks for the discussion and have a nice day!
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@xingxx (24)
• China
18 Dec 07
May all the lovers in the world have a happy ending.Love is more than a word,and it says so much.I am in the full conviction that love lasts forever