Are you to doubtfull?

United States
December 8, 2007 5:35pm CST
I always think that guys usually want something from me then just being my boyfreind. For example the last relationship I was in I would have sworn that the guy was out withwanted to be with me because I had money and a car. And the one before that I thought he liked me because he wanted his residency papers for the U.S. Even though these guys never have even talked about these things to me I am just a crazy nurotic person. So, it can be easier to put up a guard instead of maybe accepting the truth. SO, does any one else feel this way? Has anyone ever felt that their partner wanted something else or was looking for other things out of the relationship?
8 responses
@saahilin (89)
• India
10 Dec 07
ya u are right guys always want something from top to bottom but many guys are different, they want complete satisfaction
• United States
10 Dec 07
I think women also like a total package. Atleast I do! Thanx for the comment!
@mensab (4206)
• Philippines
9 Dec 07
the question is applicable to both man and woman. however, the question tends to dwell on the evil motives and interests of the partner. i say this is not a good idea. this will take away the sincerity and joy of being with someone. too much analysis of what's going on will prevent us from experiencing the reality before us. scenarios in our mind can be potent destroyers of relationships that we actually enjoy. i always believe that we, man and woman, are naturally good. i never doubt it.
• United States
10 Dec 07
wow, thanks that sounds so sweet but, for someone nurotic like me it is hard to just not think about it or have it in the back of my mind. Hopefull I can just accept thinks someday.Thanks for the comment :)
• India
9 Dec 07
Boys expect something from girls but more than guys the girls expect lot more from the boy to have realationship.Both need something for the relation like car,money,mobile and many more fators are there in the realtionship between teen guys and girls in this mordern world.
• United States
10 Dec 07
thanks for the comment!
@eyewitness (1577)
• Netherlands
9 Dec 07
well i don't think i ever dealt with something like that.But i do know i once had a relationship and i thought in the end when we broke up that he wanted a relationship just for sleeping with me.So as soon as i thought about that i never slept with him. So he slept with someone else and that confirmed my suspicions.
• United States
10 Dec 07
wow, atleast you gave yourself time to see if it was true. Good for you!! Thanks for the comment.
@MGjhaud (20866)
• Philippines
9 Dec 07
i'm always doubtful and that's one big reason why i put myself away from guys hehehe.. because i'm a skeptical person and the guy would be torn pleasing me to believe what he's trying to tell or show me. ever since i don't trust and that's base from my experiences. i was a lot of times fooled by them and so i was hardened. but i'm not that hard on them though. i'm hard i na way that it'll take time to make me go and believe or trust the guys words. that's all. everybody is doubtful, we only differ in by level of circumstances.
• United States
10 Dec 07
thats interesting. I never really thought of everyone doubting but in differnt levels. I also dont trust to easily due to past experiences. But, sometimes I wish I could put that behind and just live life for what it is and forget the past. thanks for the comment.
@cosylvia (401)
• China
9 Dec 07
yes,some guys is a bit abnormal or dont have the sincere desire.so i dont want to build any relationship till dont have the right one..i dont like some one like only coz my face and body or a wish of marriage..
• United States
10 Dec 07
me too. I dont look for those things.
• China
9 Dec 07
its no doubt that man want something from woman . i know that you are too rich , therefore , men with u for your money . i only to tell you . the true love is honest , care ,patience in heart . i still looking for the true love . but not find now . i'd like to wait until it comes .
• United States
10 Dec 07
I agree. I am also still looking. they say though that you find them when you least expext it. Thanks for the comment!!
• United States
9 Dec 07
Yes, I know EXACTLY what you mean!! I've only had a boyfriend once ever that I broke up with last week and it was just because I was so freaking paranoid!! I was like "You're doing this, just so you can do this!" Ahh, that's why the relationship failed. I was like always thinking "My god, are you putting the meeting on this day so you can walk home with me because I really don't want to walk home with you!!!" It was just a terrible mess.
• United States
10 Dec 07
thanks for the comment!! At least someone understands!