Do you open letter not your own???

Philippines
December 11, 2007 2:45pm CST
Hi guys! I always wonder how many people here in my lot respect privacy.I am talking about receiving a letter not your own but address to your loved ones.Do you have a habit to open it and pry what's inside the letter? For me, it is a BIG NO NO to open letters that are not mine.Even my hubby's letter, I made it a point to wait for him and hand it to him in person.On the other hand, if my letters were opened, i feel so upset.Feeling my privacy was tresspassed.As it is not my habit to do that, I get angry too.It is like good manners that when a room is closed, you always need to knock. What about your stories about letters???
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24 responses
@Fiskis (168)
• Canada
11 Dec 07
at our house we always open each others mail. We have done this for many years.
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
I am not talking about utility bills but personal letters.Well, if all members of the family agreed, maybe it will work. I do prefer mine though not to be opened even by my loved ones.But when I did open it that's the time for me to exp-ose or show it. Thanks for sharing.
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• United States
12 Dec 07
Same here my and my husband agrees to open each other's mail i see no harm in it.
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
Well understandable, couples do not hide anything from loved ones supposed to be.But I don't open my hubby's letter except if he tells me so.
@Agent001 (242)
• India
23 Jan 08
I respect Privacy and admire them who think like me.I never open others letters.
• Philippines
29 Jan 08
Well, good for you agent...Salute!
• China
20 Jan 08
Of course not,no matter what conditions I am in I think there is no way that we can open other's letters without their allowance,even though they allow me to open the letters of their's I am sure I will not open them..
• Philippines
23 Jan 08
Yap, how you look up at other's privacy that's how you value yours too!
@BYOLA2871 (4373)
• South Africa
19 Jan 08
or me opening other people"s letter irespective of your relationship or closeness to them is wrong and i dont do it as a rule.i dont think its fine especially when a man and a woman are in a relationship you tend to see some things that will get you upset
• Philippines
23 Jan 08
I agree with your rule of thumb BYOLA.
@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
19 Dec 07
I suppose it depends on what the letter is or who its from. If its the bank statments or a utility bill the I open it. If its something from his work I'll either give it to him or ask him if he wants me to just read it and tell him what it's about. Most times though I open all the mail unless he checks the mail before I do then he opens it all.
• Philippines
19 Dec 07
I presume you're talking about your partner.An agreement made beforehand about this. In our family, we were taught to be courteous and refrain opening letters not address to us.So, its a big NO opening letters or mail not belonging to you!
@mcjustin (82)
• United States
19 Dec 07
Never! I just couldn't bring myself to do that. Even if the water or phone bill comes addressed to my wife, I'd leave it to her to open. To me its an issue of trust and respect.
• Philippines
19 Dec 07
Very well said.Thanks!
• Philippines
19 Dec 07
unless the letter is address to both me and my husband, i don't open letters of others. if it's utility bills, then it's just fine with me. and like you i feel angry when somebody open my personal letters. i believed it's a private matter. out of respect and courtesy we shouldn't open personal letters of other people even if these people are close members of family like our children, husband, parents, etc. and we should teach our children this one good manner and respect.
• Philippines
19 Dec 07
I value respect and courtesy at home too redbubbles.Thanks for sharing your thoughts, and family values!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
19 Dec 07
it si strict no no for me to. i never open letters not meant for me. I do not want to intrude into the privacy of others.
• Philippines
19 Dec 07
Intrusion to privacy is non appealing to me too!Thanks subha!
@mcjustin (82)
• United States
19 Dec 07
Never! Never! Never! I just couldn't do it. Even when the power or phone bill comes, addressed to my wife, I'll wait for her to open it. It's all about curtousy and respect!
• Philippines
19 Dec 07
If all people are like you mcjustin, I wouldn't hesitate to entrust even my LIFE!I must say, you would definitely receive the same level of courteouness and respect to your wife. Thanks for dropping by , sharing your values to fellow mylotters!
@ashugoel (123)
• India
18 Dec 07
No ! I will never ever do this thing in my whole life. Nobody should open others letters as the letters are not belonging to them. It is not good to open or read others letters. Every person deserves privacy and if you are breaking someone's privacy then it definately is a offensive job. No one should ever try to break privacy of others, even if they are your near and dear one's.
• Philippines
19 Dec 07
For sure, tresspassing is a crime too!
@kellys3ps (3726)
• United States
17 Dec 07
No, I always wait for the person to read their own letters.
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
Correct. If it isn't address to you, then it doesn't belong to you.Unless they want to share what's in it, they will read it out to you! Good job kelly.
@balasri (26553)
• India
16 Dec 07
I have never done that.The advice which was given to me in the school still stick to me.
• Philippines
16 Dec 07
Perfect, like a good person!Thanks for participating on the discussion!
• United States
12 Dec 07
we never really get personal letters but i do open his bank statements and bills b4 he gets home sometimes
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
Ah, OK.
@eyewitness (1577)
• Netherlands
12 Dec 07
I never open letter from my family.Except when it happens by accident or when those are for my brother it depends if it has to do with financial stuff because i'm doing his account.But when i know it's personal i will not open it. And he trust me in that.
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
When privacy is practiced,trust and respect is earned.
@liera0 (280)
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
I don't open letter unless its mine. Even if the owner of the letter says open it and read it loud for me. I dont open it. I don't want to interfere in person's privacy. Even if it's a bill. I myself gets angry if my mail is opened. And it always happens... sometimes it doesn't but most of the times I recieved my mails open. Upsetting it is on why people do it.
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
Really annoying isn't it? Don't know what they get from it except maybe they miss receiving one ha!
@limalimon (638)
• Mexico
12 Dec 07
No, i think that is not polite, because i donĀ“t want to lose my privacity. i respect the privacity and i expect that the other family members do it too.
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
Absolutely...If go back to the basic"Golden Rule" too!
• United States
12 Dec 07
My boyfriend and his brother always had little problems every little once in a while. They didn't live with their mother. His brother and his girlfriend in one room, My boyfriend had his own room, and their 23 year old sister was in the other room. Well, my boyfriend got sick of dealing with everyone because their mom would pay the rent for them supposably but she told my boyfriend that rent was $500, which was a bunch of crap. He paid $500 a month knowing his mom was robbing him and he didn't make much. He was only 19 but he got a lot of mail. No one opened his mail. He didn't have that problem until he moved out the place about 3-4 months ago. Now his brother throws his mail on the front porch for him to come get it. Money comes in the mail to his house, they open it, we find out it's missing. We can't have his adress changed to where he's living at now. But We had to get the mail held. It's a felony to do some stuff like that. But you're not gonna getyour own brother arrested. They ended up fighting and his brother got his butt whopped but hey, who are you to open the man's mail? I mean, I've been his girl for about 3 years, when I'm at his house and I see a card from grandma or whatever I don't open it. Are you serious? I mean everyone is entitled to their own privacy. Everyone does their moments of time to themselves. No, It is more than not having good manners. When it comes to those situations, you have to lay the strong hand down and say how you feel and how angry you have become at this person. Take whatever measures you need to take to have your privacy. And make sure no one else will get in your way of having that!
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
Whoa, that is exactly what causes trouble opening other's mail even your loved ones.Everybody's right to privacy should be respected. I dealt with a lot of my patients, and it is a Pro BONO to always keep in mind patient's privacy because if we divulge patient's profile and exposing their bodies,we will be Sued...Trouble coming!!! You have the splendid explanation to why we shouldn't open letters that are not ours!!!Thanks for the crystal clear explanation, as well as practicat true to life example!
@scoles (65)
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
I definitely agree with you... even when somebody called my loveone's cellphone i won't answer it coz her private belonging... i think that's really a rule when a door is closed you must knock first before entering...
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
Precisely...thanks for sharing!
@sweetcakes (3505)
• United States
12 Dec 07
However we do have the rule in our house when the door is shut u knock and get permission to enter the bedroom.
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
That's good manner and right conduct...But as a family, I have everbody have their own rules, which I do respect!
@tiffiny (872)
• United States
11 Dec 07
I'm not above opening it. Lol He doesn't really get mail anyways and if he ever did get a letter from some one I didn't recognize yeah I would open it. But if it was from his mom or some one in his family or some one I knew than no.
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
Hmnn, that's still opening what is not address to you.