how do u get a man to notice you

United States
December 12, 2007 8:18pm CST
i have a crush on a guy named robert we are good friends but i cant tell him my feelings because i am scared i know he cares for me 2 but wont show it i would love for him to return my feelings would u just tell him or decide to love him from afar i fell for him the first minute i saw him i know he doesnt date others. we had been working together for 2 months until i had the guts to say hi i have helped him out as much as i can what do i do its almost the beginning of the new year and i wasted enough time already how do i get him to open up
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@makatas (1101)
• Greece
13 Dec 07
Speaking from the opposite side, all i can say is that he might feel the same.I am a shy person too, i cannot express my feelings to a woman supposing i feel sth about her...Imagine, what if he loves you too besides caring and friendship?You are losing time worrying about it.I know i cant give that kind of advice, since i cannot act like this myself, but you could try to bring discussion over the issue. Worst that can happen is he refuses.Hmm...on second thought, its easy to advise someone and not do the same yourself.So, better do whatever you think is right.Time passes fast :(
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• United States
13 Dec 07
Do you know what he's into, what kinds of things he likes? Do you have anything in common with him that you could talk to him about? Any chances that you could get together outside of work? Sometimes people don't want to get involved with a co-worker in case it doesn't work out & all so he might be afraid of that happening too. My husband & I were (and still are!!) best friends before anything else and I had to make the first move...LOL It took awhile but we've been together for 4 years already. Have patience though and take things slow, no need to rush. Just remember that good things come to those who wait. Hoping things work out for you!!
@zhwbeast (328)
• China
14 Dec 07
i agree with your words that love between the family goes on by patient,but something we must take acts before others acting,the success just depends on the time you take,we can't lose the fortune.
• United States
13 Dec 07
Maybe you should open up and tell him how you feel. He might feel the same as you but is just as scared. Cause even though these men play the tough guy macho act they are sometimes as scared as we are when it comes to telling one their feelings. If you care for him this much you should tell him. If it was me I would tell him. I would not want to live with "what if's" Like the what if I just told him. And than theres the big what if. what if you don;t say nothing and someone else does. What if he starts dating someone else because they opened up and told him how they feel. It hurts having to watch the one you love, love someone else. Of course theres that chance that he does not return your feelings but "WHAT IF" he does return them. Good luck with whatever you decide to do
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
13 Dec 07
first of all you have to be sure that he feels the same way for you. Cause sometimes, when guys dont feel the same way, they might avoid you or feel different about you when you confess how you feel for him.So just be sure first of how he feels, guys could give out mix signals sometimes
• Canada
13 Dec 07
well if you think its there then go for it. its not goin thurt you if u just tell hiom how u feel and just tell me that you understand if he doesnt feel the same way and it wont change how things are right now. but you have to think if he does have feelings for u and always go by your gut feeling because its always right.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
13 Dec 07
You should just approach him and be honest. Waiting for him does nothing. I mean really let that statement sink in Princess A. Do not be scared and tell him what you feel, see if he feels the same. If you don't, you may never truly find out. Talk to him, give him a card, send him a note, invite him somewhere, do **something!** to at least see what is going on. I have to say this once more, if you do nothing, nothing will happen. Waiting on him is a flawed way of approaching this especially since you are the one getting impatient and you are the one with the thoughts of a relationship. If you don't at least try it, the chance may slip away.
• United States
13 Dec 07
thank you for your comments thats what i thought i should do but i am to scared to i guess i will never know unless i take that first step its like baby steps. one time at a time thanks for the comment hopefully i can lose the nervousness and make that step forward
@Estina54 (389)
• United States
15 Dec 07
Love is not something to be done on commend, if you push somebody to give you a Yes or NO answer, there are chances to get the NO answer and scare him away. Caring is something necessary in a relationship. Love might be only a temporary emotion.
• United States
15 Dec 07
You have not wasted anytime at all. This world is crazy we live in. I would stick to being a co worker and try to get to know him as a friend. 2 months is not nearly the amount of time woman or even men should give the other. It's better to know what your getting into before telling this man you like him.
@zhwbeast (328)
• China
14 Dec 07
i think you just care about the everything of him like his health,his spirit,and his temperature.you must give him help when he is in sadness or failed in something,and share his happyness because this time his heart would be easy recpet.love is the most powerful army,and you just give him your love in the things around him, i comfirm that he will open up.