mind twister! help me!

Philippines
December 14, 2007 9:08am CST
i really need help here...i have a textmate, i never met him, we only talked and texted each other for almost 5 months...and we become bf/gf for 2 months now...i know that relationship in texting is not a serious thing, and i know that what he saying to me is just empty words, no meaning and maybe true or not...ok..i dont really know if he is true to me or not...i consulted my cousins about this, coz they are usually doing this things, having relationship in texting and they told me that i should not believe in him, coz what he saying is only some flowery words and not true...so i believe in them..but look at this one... there is a girl who loved him, she texted me to stop texting with that guy coz she loved him so much...but he told me that he didnt loved her..then the girl told her friends that they have a relationship, then in front of them, he told them that he didnt loved her and she slapped him in face and get really mad at him... another one is... his ex-girlfriend, also his first loved as he told me before, come back to him and want their relationship back, but he turned her down and told her that he has already have a gf and love another girl who happened to be me... now, i dont know what to think, what to do, and what to believe in...anyone can help me?thanks in advance guys!
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8 responses
@oliverdt (1959)
• Philippines
15 Dec 07
I have a very bad experience texting the girl i like, knowing that she likes me to but i discover bad things about her. Shes dating lots of guys, so i stop texting and she never text me too. hayz buhay nga naman parang life.
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• Philippines
15 Dec 07
im prepared for that thing...well, its seem that im waiting for a miracle to happen with this things..expecting him to be true to me, oh my that will be so impossible, dont you think? well im just fooling around like what he's doing...thanks...by the way, dont used tagalog words here coz they might delete your post...it happened to me twice...thanks!
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• India
15 Dec 07
Only time will give answers to your questions. He seems to have plenty of ex's, which is not wrong or anything like that. But beware of a person who has too many ex's who don't seem to realize that they are ex's. You wouldn't want to join their ranks. Take care.. Cheers!
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• Philippines
15 Dec 07
thanks for telling me that, i dont even think that, of course i dont want to...i dont consider him as my boyfriend anyways...i just carried away last night...but im so thankful coz there are people like you who cares to response and help me! thanks a lot!
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• United States
15 Dec 07
Honestly i would say not to trust it. You really dont know how true this person is. And you dont even know if they are who they say they are. And you dont even know if he has another girl on the side. Your best bet is to trust you instincts on this one.
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• Philippines
15 Dec 07
and there's no reason for me to trust him right? well i think that he has alot of girl with him, but still, i allow him to fool me, coz maybe i know what he's thinking and what he's doing...kind of crazy of me? well im just looking for something to do?well, i guess im just fooling around...thanks!
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• United States
15 Dec 07
Chances are good, that if you're asking, you already know what you should do - you just don't like it. Texting isn't a relationship with a person, it's a relationship with your phone. Even if he is faithful, you need someone to hug and kiss and go to the movies with and take you to dances or whatever all else. Cut it off with the textmate, and find yourself someone local. It's scarier actually meeting people, but much more rewarding!
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• Philippines
15 Dec 07
wow! those words make me smile! well you're right, maybe im just looking for some kind of attention?or something to do? either way...maybe im just overreacted with those things coz its my first time to have textmate...thanks for all you said! makes me feel ok...
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
14 Dec 07
Are you planning to ever meet up with this guy ? cause if you are not then what's the point in worry about it at all? and if you are planning on meeting up with him, well you had better be carefull cause there are a lot of crazy people out there in this world and i wouldnt want anything bad to happen to you, or anyone else because they didn't take percations! Meet in public places for a while, and if you can do a background check on him. That might tell you more then you need to know about his character. Good luck and be carefull :)
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• Philippines
15 Dec 07
yes, we are planning to meet...of course im with my bestfriend or couzins if ever that time came...thanks for remainding me!i really appreciate it!thanks a lot!
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• United States
14 Dec 07
How can you be in a relationship if you have never met someone? And how do you know that he isnt saying the same thing to these other girls? You need to be very careful and dont let your heart out on your sleeve until you know for sure. Im not saying it wont work Im just saying use extreme caution. Your gambling that he isnt playing you..You need to meet him and discuss these things in person. Being able to look a person in the eyes is a whole lot different than trying to read through the lines of a text. Good luck and be careful! :)
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• Philippines
14 Dec 07
thanks smwilliams! i really like what you said! we're planning to meet soon and that will be the judgement day! hehe! but i think i should consider this as some sort of friendship? well, i dont really know what will i call this one...
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• United States
14 Dec 07
It may be flowery words and it may not. How do you find out? Only time will tell. Chances are if you've never met him, he's not being faithful to you. You may be one of many girlfriends. I know at least when I had a long distance relationship, I was not committed to him as we were 3000 miles away and we saw each other every 2nd or 3rd month for a few days. That's not a relationship. If I were you, I'd concentrate on finding someone locally. Having a relationship with a phone sucks. Find someone in your own hometown so you can actually physically be with them and do things together.
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• Philippines
14 Dec 07
yes youre rigth...besides, i remember just now that i dont believe in long distance relationships...i think, i should not be taking this up seriously, "came what may" will do, dont you think?thanks for response!
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@alamode (3073)
• United States
15 Dec 07
If he can treat other women badly, he will treat you the same way. He's not looking for a girlfriend, he's looking to have his ego boosted. You really don't know each other, so there is no relationship other than talking... leave it at that. That guy has way too much drama in his life to be any good for you!
• Philippines
15 Dec 07
hands down alamode!thanks!so im still single!lol! so im still right not to take this seriously...lets just say, company...im still blessed that God didnt allow me to be tricked by those fools...
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