Is it right that we lie to our children?

my belief is, in every house there is a santa claus. as long there is a father in the hause then santa claus is real. that why the song I saw mommy kissing santa claus is, because the santa claus is the dad.

It is a lie to be honest. Although it's not that serious, I mean by all means it's a good thing to lie about. I wouldn't say it isn't because he isn't real and we're the ones who give our children hope about it but being annoyed about it is taking it tooo far. He's fourty and still questions you? hopefully serious lies don't effect that badly. Kudos! ~Joey

Kowgirl we do what we think is best and if a Child wants to believe in Santa why take the Illusion away But these Days it is not anymore like it was I don't know why your Son was angry I cried when I found out there is no Santa I still wanted to believe as I think that is the special thing about Christmas and I will be really honest I still believe that somewhere there is a Santa not in the Sense that he comes at Christmas and that but in the Sense that there is one

I don't like to lie to my children. I just tell my children that I'm their Santa Claus but my son wants to believe so I let him.He thinks that Santa is imaginary. I just say well we will play Santa Claus. I think he knows he's just playing along.I make sure that he knows the true meaning of Christmas.

I don't htink it's right to lie..wether to our children or to anybody else. I don't have kids yet but when I do have one or two, I will tell them that Santa is just like any disney charcater,that he is not real. I'll explain as best as could that he is just a symbol of gift giving during the holidays season.

I've never considered it a lie. I believe in Santa! LOL

i remember when i found out there was no santa, i was crushed,.. and i felt betrayed by my parents.. i found it hard to believe then that god was there if there was no santa, tooth fairy, easter bunny, etc. my parents didn't know how to convince me,, since you could not see him/her, or speak to god..its a very hard thing to understand, so when my children were small i never really told them that santa brought them things, i just told them he was a helper to all the parents in the world., and it was just a very happy tale that santa flew with his reindeer. it was easier that way, and i was not wanting santa to get all the credit for what was under our tree!

To be honest, the story of Santa and his elves really make Christmas special. Once children find out Santa isn't real, it really takes away the magic of Christmas, and to be honest, I miss the magic. Christmas just isn't the same anymore. That being said, I think once kids find out you lied about something as big as Santa, it just kind of makes them question everything. I know I did. Because I mean, if your parents can really make up an elaborate lie like Santa and lie enough to back it up every year, then what else can they be lying about? In kids minds, that practically means anything you say can be a lie. With that being said, the lie of Santa is really up to the parents. I mean, it's a nice tradition, keeping kids excited about Christmas and the spirit of giving, but if you want to keep telling your kids that Santa is real and then tell them he isn't, you should just be prepared for what happens later when they don't believe anything you say.

I think its ok for us to tell our children that there is a santa, because it makes christmas more special and exciting for the children. If we didn't say there was a santa to them it would be like a second birthday with decorations to them. Children always get excited when they see a santa at christmas time because they like to tell him what they want fo christmas and its nice to see their happy faces when they get some of what they asked for on christmas day. I wasn't bothered when i found out santa wasn't real, i wasn't even bothered that my parents said he was real because after i found out he wasn't christmas wasn't as special anymore. But knowing the truth now im older, oviously we see the more seasonal side of christmas. ~Joeys wife

LOL, you could have just told him that you did not lie, but really believed in a Santa and still do. Seriously, we can't always tell the truth. I believe if my boy challenges me that way, I would challenge him back... give a list of all the lies he has told. Come on, it is human to lie. What is really terrible, is telling lies that really hurt and damage people emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially. The Santa lie keeps us all happy; long may it last!

I dont know if i really consider it lying to our children about santa. Think of it this way. If we tell them the truth about Santa, the easter bunny, and the tooth fairy what do they have to look forward to? I really dont think i could deprive my kids of this. I think i would rather them be angry at me for "lying" to them.

Hi,there! I don't think it's right to tell lies to the children.Though sometimes it might be necessary,I still think it won't give a good impression to the kids.For me,I can understand the lies about Santa,but maybe not every kid could understand that later.So I would say as parents,they'd better pay attention to this and try to explain things in the true way but not too many lies.Even if they need to tell a lie at first,they should explain that very well when the kid gets older.Thanks for the discussion and have a good weekend^_^

Many of us realise that our parent has lied to us when we were children. Sometime, when thingking again about it, me us mad. But when we thingking again, our parents did it for a better reasons. Such as, my parent always told me that if played oround in the rainy day, I will be attacked by an evil monster. Of course I will not played around when rainy day. If we think again, playing in rainy day will make us got cold and fever, so I feel my parent lied to me for a better reason. But if parent lied to us without having any better reason behind it, I will get mad with them.