Single mom explaining to four year old why recent fiance left..

United States
December 20, 2007 9:35pm CST
Just recently, my fiance left me. I have been divorced for three years, and thought this man was the one. My four year old is having an extremely difficult time understanding why he left. Any suggestions when dealing with a four year old wise beyond his years?
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@vera5d (4006)
• United States
22 Dec 07
it is tricky to explain to kids...just say he has gone away and you don't know if you will see him again...most kids understand that...you don't have to explain a lot to kids...keeping it as simple as possible usually works
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
21 Dec 07
i have four children and when we left their dad, my youngest was just 5 years old. i just told them the truth. they have a lot of questions and i answered it in a way that they will understand. they have different views about it but later on find out that it was a good step. telling the truth is what is best, pick easy words and tell your child what you feel. it is much easy to heal with them helping you do it. God bless
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
21 Dec 07
That is a tough one. I went through the same thing when my boys were two and three. We weren't engaged, but we lived together so my boys saw this man every day. After our break up, even two years later, my boys were still asking about him and why he wasn't around anymore. They really looked up to him. My boys are very intelligent for the age they were and I just told them that he didn't love us enough and had to move on and find someone that he did love in that special way. Not that he didn't love them, just not me the way I needed him to. they knew he loved them, so i worded that wrong earlier. I hope this helped some. Children are so much smarter and understand alot more than we give them credit for. I think if you just sit down with him and explain things to him, he will understand and thank you in the end for it. God bless and keep us posted
• United States
21 Dec 07
You might not want to hear this but honestly i would tell him the truth. He might understand it more then you think. And you definitely dont want to lie to him. That will only make matters worse. Good luck to you.