i am in mess is there anyone can help me

Wait a minute. What gender is your lover? It is not correct to say "his husband". There is not something like this in any language. You can say "his spouse" but never "his husband". And a he can't give birth. It is not biologically possible. Please, rewrite your story and make it clearer.

You can never be say that the child is yours, because your lover has a husband and obcourse they also make love. unless they are not making love anymore. lol

Wow, that's a real tough situation you've got yourself in. Hmmmm....I'm even having a hard time with what I'm going to say to you. Well, I think this issue needs a really hard thinking and decision making. First, decide with your lover whether the two of you are really serious with each other. If not, let it be kept a secret. If their marriage is not going well and your lover is really planning on leaving her husband, then it should be made known. If your lover wants to keep her husband, you'll have to wait until you see your son in the future. Just remember, this entails a really big responsibility on both of you. Good luck!

This is a tough one. First of all, let's talk about the actual relationship. It is the same advice I would give a woman. Why are you in a relationship with a married person? The promises to leave their spouse are empty and you deserve to be with someone who is able to give you their whole heart. This cannot be an honest relationship as someone who cheats on their husband can hide things from you, too. I would consider what is best for the child and your lover even if it means breaking up. Be honest. Is this a deep relationship or is this just a fling where you sleep with eachother only? Can you support your lover and the child if she were to be cast aside by her husband for cheating? If you cannot support the child, and the husband can and loves the child as his own, maybe the conversation is best kept quiet in the best interest of the child.

This is a tough one. First of all, let's talk about the actual relationship. It is the same advice I would give a woman. Why are you in a relationship with a married person? The promises to leave their spouse are empty and you deserve to be with someone who is able to give you their whole heart. This cannot be an honest relationship as someone who cheats on their husband can hide things from you, too. I would consider what is best for the child and your lover even if it means breaking up. Be honest. Is this a deep relationship or is this just a fling where you sleep with eachother only? Can you support your lover and the child if she were to be cast aside by her husband for cheating? If you cannot support the child, and the husband can and loves the child as his own, maybe the conversation is best kept quiet in the best interest of the child.

You can't be sure it is yours without a partenity test.