Why would the man who says he love you constantly hurt you?
By bishu_sinha
@bishu_sinha (1457)
India
December 24, 2007 2:24am CST
My Boyfriend and I have been together for three years and have known one another since we were 12 years old. Well We were engaged which I called it off cause he cheated, thinking he would stop the games I stayed with him. We have been through everything with each other. Well I had a guy friend whom happened to be black and since my boyfriend was ignoring me and pushing me away i started building a stronger friendship with one of my guy friends. Well one night I had told him I couldnt talk to him anymore because of my then fiance, he started telling me how he felt and to be honest I loved him as a friend but nothing more. Well the boyfriend went through my phone when I forgot it and found out bout me telling my guy friend I cared for him. Well he went nuts, he threw it in my face that he was going to ask me to marry him again tonight at 12:01. I have broke down and I dont know what to do. I love him and care for him, but not sure if its worth fighting for. I'd like some advice please
3 responses
@24kkattster (10)
• United States
27 Dec 07
hi bishu... Few probs here w/b-f... 1.he cheated on you. 2. you stayed with him. 3.he doesn't trust *you*?? (wtf??) 4. B-f *was going to* ask you to marry him *that* night?
1. He cheated. He won't change. No matter what.
2. sorry, you are/were foolish for staying with a cheater.
3. He cheated, therefore, you must be cheating on him, too, hence his distrust for you because *HE* cannot be trusted. He has projected himself on you, trying to divert you from what you *know* to be true. He's a cheater.
4. Um, sorry, but the night he finds out you called you male friend, so B-f is all jealous, and it was THAT night he was going to pop the Big Question? Bull.
Honey, if you stay with this guy, MY OPINION ONLY, you get what you deserve.
Hugs.
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
24 Dec 07
Doesn't sound worth fighting for if you aren't allowed to have male friends- sounds like he doesn't trust you and without that you have nothing. Move on- there is better out there.
