Thoughts on relationships
December 30, 2007 12:37am CST
I find that often a relationship crosses over some line and everything that once was nice ans sweet can shift to where we focus on our wants and desires rather than those of the other or even for the well being of others. The more we focus on what we do not have or what the other is not giving us the less we appreciate what is given and what we do have. Usually also in the appreciation of a little encourages and liberates the other to willingly and freely and even happily to give more. Yet I know there are those who would give so little and expect that it should be enough yet if it is our desire and goal to ive we find that it is a joy to give more. Again if we choose to love someone we must understand that this is a gift to them regardless, it is not based on a condition of what they give back it is that we desire to love them, support them, encourage and honor them, and to build them up. I know this may not be what others my think but I do believe this is how love was intended to be and it is go for us to pursue not to be loved but to found someone we can love in this way, but someone who we can make happy. If our love does not make them happy then perhaps we still love them but know we will never be able to love them in the way they would like. Usually it is good to know this so that we love them more as a friend and maybe someday we can find someone we can make happy.
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8 Jan 08
Wow, you really thought this out. And you are so right. A good relationship is give and take, though. You talk only about the give portion, but without taking you don't feel satisfied and you don't want to give. I love my hubby with all my heart and I will do and give anything to make him happy, when I am happy. If he doesn't give to me I am not very happy. So it does work both ways. A person needs to compromise a lot in a relationship also, on both sides, for it to work. But you are right and I congratulate you are your assesments of a good relationship.