To be with the one u love or with the one who loves u??
By kun2349
@kun2349 (23381)
Singapore
13 responses
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
1 Nov 09
hello casper...haha
i have read it somewhere & would like to share it here... hehe
" sometimes, in our relentless efforts to find the person you love, we fail to recognize & appreciate the people who love us. we miss out on so many beautiful things & simply because we allow ourselves to be enslave by our own selfish concerns. go for deeds & not for the man of words, for you will find rewarding happiness not with the man you love but the man who loves you more."
i don't know how true it was, but as for my personal opinion, i will also choose the one who loves me, i know it will be difficult to be with someone that we don't love, but i know that it can be learned...hehe and its even more difficult to be with the man who don't love me, and being with him will just become a burden & sooner that love will also fade... and as you know, im the type who don't push my self for someone who don't like me...
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
2 Nov 09
THose phrases are meaningful.. Where did u find it?? hehe 
ANd it's very true as well! ^_^
Well, most ple will tend to choose to be with someone who loves us more.. BUt what happens if we dun love them as much?? haha =D BUt then again, true love is about no giving up easily, and thus we will be won over by their sincerity, over time ^_^
A man of deeds is someone to look forward to, as he's allowing their actions to prove.. Rather than a man of words, promising everything on earth, but achieving nothing at all.. haha =D 
As such, i'm lucky that my mommy has found more than one, whom loves u more.. hehe 
ANd it's very true as well! ^_^
Well, most ple will tend to choose to be with someone who loves us more.. BUt what happens if we dun love them as much?? haha =D BUt then again, true love is about no giving up easily, and thus we will be won over by their sincerity, over time ^_^
A man of deeds is someone to look forward to, as he's allowing their actions to prove.. Rather than a man of words, promising everything on earth, but achieving nothing at all.. haha =D
As such, i'm lucky that my mommy has found more than one, whom loves u more.. hehe @kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
3 Nov 09
OKOK!! It's surprising that his frenz managed to get such things?? lol =D I thought they are supposed to be solemn?? hehe
Well, does that mean it will happen to u as well?? hehe ^_^ Or maybe it has already being over developed?? lol =D But it's kinda true.. Everybody who has a heart and feelings will tend to be moved.. BUt alot depends on how one stops it, when they are really not interested.. hehe
YEah, i know, u are one whom does not brak, but BIte at every chance!! lol =D So, your actions do really prove alot of things.. hehe ^_^
Hmmm.. baby does love as much, and even more!! hehe
Well, does that mean it will happen to u as well?? hehe ^_^ Or maybe it has already being over developed?? lol =D But it's kinda true.. Everybody who has a heart and feelings will tend to be moved.. BUt alot depends on how one stops it, when they are really not interested.. hehe
YEah, i know, u are one whom does not brak, but BIte at every chance!! lol =D So, your actions do really prove alot of things.. hehe ^_^
Hmmm.. baby does love as much, and even more!! hehe@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
is it nice? well i just get it from my husband's friends...hehe i saw it inserted in his book...so i get it! haha...i will send you the whole copy sometime, somewhere...but just give me time. ok?
if we don't love them much? i think as time pass by, we can develop a love for them, specially if they are treating us well & didn't give up in showing his love for us...
well, most of the time, those who talks much are those who do less... haha just like those dogs who barks much are usually the coward one...haha
let our action talk for us for action speak louder than words...huh!
hmmm...but i guess on both side, its always mommy who loves more...
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
31 Dec 07
hi kun! ^__^
do you know the song of Glenn Frey titled "the one you love"? it talks about the same thing, just like your question. anyway, for me, i have always said that if i were faced with this kind of situation, i will choose the one who loves me even if i don't love that person. with that person i wouldn't have to worry of being hurt because everything he will do will be for the sake of my happiness. unlike with the person that i love who doesn't love me. because i'm pretty sure that i will face a lot of heartaches with him.
however, there's a thought in one corner of my head that says i will not be happy with the person that i don't love but who loves me because even if he will do everything that will make me happy, my happiness will not be complete because he is not the person that my heart wants. .
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
2 Jan 08
the song goes "are you gonna stay with the one you love or are you going back with the one who loves you..." ^__^
I guess its better to be unfair to ourselves than to be unfair with other people. at least our conscience won't be bugging us. ^__^
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
4 Jan 08
oh.. the song suits my discussion.. hehe ^_^ If given a choice, who wun wanna be loved?? So i guess, when being loved by someone, the feeling is good rather than to love someone.. UNfair may be wat we feel only, but the other party may not feel so as they may feel it's worth the wait for us to love them.. hehe ^_^
And yup, always be straight forward and dun give false hope to someone u dun like, so that he knows it and it wun be conscious bugging for u too ^_^
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
2 Jan 08
nope, i dunno about that song.. hehe.. u are right, secret.. choosing to be with the one who loves u may be better because the someone will be always trying to make u happy and place u in tip priority.. But no matter how, the sumone is still not the one u love and thus, we may start to imagine that it's actually the one we love, doing all these things.. hehe.. In a way, it's gonna be very unfair.. BUt life is always unfair.. LOL.. So for me, i will choose to be with the person i love instead ^_^
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@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
1 Jan 08
Neither. I will not choose any. If the one I love does not love me, I will let him go and find his true love. If the one I do not love but loves me, I will ask him not to waste him time on someone who is not deserving of his love. Love must be mutual. I rather be single if there's no one who loves me and I love in my life.
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@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
2 Jan 08
I have a friend who has chased after this gal for one year. No matter what he does, she is only touched but she cannot accept him no matter what. In this case, I think it's really not worth it for my friend to stick to her because she may eventually find a person she likes and who likes her too and leave my friend. That would be very sad for my friend.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
4 Jan 08
BUt once feel touched, they is a chance for her to fall for him.. Though the chance is not that great, but the chance is there.. and it's not that easy to touch a person no matter how easy the gal may say that she can be easily touched =P
My fen choose to be with the one who loves him, but it's a fatal mistake because she's just out to cheat money and in the end, my fren eneded up with mountains of debt to pay :(
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
2 Jan 08
wa.. so serious ah.. LOL.. i will rather choose to be with the one i love.. because, if i dun like someone, no matter what they do, i also still wun like them.. But when i love someone, nop matter wat they do, i will still love them without any feelings lost.. hehe
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@Desierra1004 (1213)
• Malaysia
6 Jul 08
Hie Kun, If I have a choice, I would want both to be crazy in love with each another
But if none then I would prefer to be with someone that loves me. I don't think I could throw away my second chance of happiness although I might not love as yet but in time I believe I will develop some feeling.
And I am sure it's a wonderful feeling to feel the love & needed/wanted by someone else. I can't afford to be that choosy anymore 
and it's fair to give him a chance as opportunity usually does not knock twice.
Cheers and best wishes.
But if none then I would prefer to be with someone that loves me. I don't think I could throw away my second chance of happiness although I might not love as yet but in time I believe I will develop some feeling.
And I am sure it's a wonderful feeling to feel the love & needed/wanted by someone else. I can't afford to be that choosy anymore and it's fair to give him a chance as opportunity usually does not knock twice.
Cheers and best wishes.
@latriciajones (846)
• United States
22 Jun 08
i would have to be with someone that loves me just as much as i love him.
Becuase if i just love him then what's the point i'm gonna end up bein hurt, and if he loves me but i dont love him then he'll end up hurt. We have to b on the same level because when your feelings are different for each other then you treat each other differently and sometimes that's not good.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
22 Jun 08
yup, right in a way, but it's gonna be hard for a couple to be the same.. If that's the case, no one will really give in during arguments and no one will wanna take a step back.. Everything will be very nice and smooth when there's no arguments, but once there are, ugly scenes is bound to surface and it's hard to clear up the mess too..
@SachseMom (448)
• United States
4 Jan 08
I would have to be with the One I love. I couldn't stay and pretend, that's just not me! If I'm supposed to be building a life with someone and sharing every day with them then I have to love them or have some kind of feelings for them.
I don't see how people marry just for money! I couldn't do it.
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@sojournseeker (1244)
• United States
2 Jan 08
Hopefully both should be the same person but realistically speaking it generally is not; therefore the best advice I can give based on my professional findings and personal experience, go with the one who compliments your life, loves you for who you are and wants nothing more than to grow old with you and challenge together all that comes to you both as a couple not just separate people . . .
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
4 Jan 08
u are the 1st to say, to be with the one who loves u ^_^ I agree with u that love the someone for who u are.. Everybody has got their own character and when u really love that person, u will accept it and not try to change that person.. ONce u do that, he/she will not be the same person again and definitely not the same person we loved b4 ^_^
@kellys3ps (3723)
• United States
31 Dec 07
My answer to that question has changed over the years. As a teen I would have answered that I would want to be with the one I love. In my twenties I would have chosen to be with someone who loves me. Now that I am OLD (LOL) and in my 30s I know that the person needs to be both the one you love and the one who loves you!
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@luisberty (83)
• Cameroon
31 Dec 07
i really think that you will be with the one who love you because uif somebody love another he will all to make his life good but if you love someone you don't really know if he love you too and he can make you anithing because he know that yu love him and you will apologise him
@gridzone (12)
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4 Jan 08
If I got a chance to choose,I will surely choose the One Who Loves Me than the one I Loves,because if the person I likes didn't like me then what will I do.I think that my choice will be 100% accurate.Before that I consider some things like the character of that person,behavior,way of talking,smartness etc.I want to build a good relationship with that person whom I choose.And I will try to maintain the relationship very good till my end.I also says that the better person for us will be the one who loves us than the one who we loves.
@gridzone (12)
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4 Jan 08
There are so many things I would like to do in my life.The first 0ne is to build a challenging career in my life.I need maximum satisfaction from my career,Which has to provide everything I need.Education is another important thing.I would like to acquire more,than what I have now.Building a good personality and a good character is another important thing.There are so many things in the list.To explain everything need more time,so I am concluding,more than this I would like to be helpful and lovable human being in my life.
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