how can you be a good listener?

Philippines
January 3, 2008 11:57pm CST
i think many people experience this situation... if somebody shares to you with some boring topics and you don't seemed to be interested in it..how will you maintain yourself as a good listener?
7 responses
• Mexico
4 Jan 08
The good listener always help those people who need them, no matter how boring the topic or the problem.if you think listener have to like the topic,or always get great topic for them to listen, isn't a listener. for example :someone comes to you when she or he get in trouble with his/her boy friends,you don't want to listen it,so you just said"i like Hillary Duff could we change the topic".yeah, nice listener buddy! someone have to give their time, or if you really don't want to hear it. especially when someone come to you and tell you about immoral thing JUST BE HONEST.
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• Philippines
4 Jan 08
yah,a friend is always a friend, he/she will also understand if you will be honest to and at the same time a good listener to him/her.
• China
4 Jan 08
Doing something or thinking something else. To boring topics, I will divert my attention to other things or try to change to another topic.
• Philippines
4 Jan 08
I think your not maintaining yourself as a good listener in this case.
• Pakistan
4 Jan 08
Agree, You are not being a good listener in this case --xhovalin--
• China
6 Jan 08
That's not good idea.You will think as he or she.And help youe friend out of the topic state.
• Indonesia
23 Jan 08
as a human we could be a good person, someone have to be a good listener if want others persons give an appreciate beck to him. so we have to be a good listenner. but how if the topics are so boring??!!! i think it's good for us to appreciate what have somebody talk to us...so be a good listeneer
• India
23 Jan 08
i think that is an embarassing situation but depends upon the person who it is .if it is a friend we can just ask them to shut for they will not mistake but if it is ur boss or any person then we have to bear with that.what else?
• Netherlands
19 Jan 08
if someone who's drunk keeps talking to you and you can still keep listening and actually know what kind of crap is saying, then you're a good listener.
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• Australia
12 Jan 08
if you find what someone is teeling you to be boring, ask yourself why is he/she saying this to me?. If you dont want to be rude ask questions to try & spark some interest. If you still find it boring or your brain has turn to mush due to boredem & cant think of an interesting question to ask then stear topic elewhere.If thats not working & the person is still babbling away then being rude might be the go. say sorry afterwards...
• Pakistan
4 Jan 08
How can you be a good listener?Good Question?But who is the audience,Unless we know who the audience is than how can we address the question of how can we be good listener? If you were thinking to apply some general principles, that would be a smart guess, but for that we would have to refer to Carl Rogers School (Of course there are other alternatives, however Rogers sets a very good standard. Reference: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carl_Rogers Further more we would have to see what is the purpose of being a good listener. Once we have nailed down 1. The Audience, 2. the Purpose of being a good listener than we have laid the bases of the discussion. I hope it provides some direction to the discussion. Best Regards,--xt--