I would like to go crawl in a hole and just evaporate until its over..

@peanutjar (5198)
Canada
January 8, 2008 12:25pm CST
As some of you know,my grand-mother had passed away 2 days before christmas and ever since then the family has gone crazy with greed,especially my sister who wants it all and everything.The will was read last thursday and everything was left to my mom who is the only child left from my grand-mother whos surviving,she also left my looney sister a little bit and ever since then,my sister wants everything,especially a money safe whcih has alot of money init.It is to be seperated between my mom and her,but my sister is fighting with all the family and keeps bugging mom for it.We all know why because she's the black sheep of the family which is a druggie and has a druggie boyfriend.I guess her money ran out and she needs a kick or something.My moms not giving in though.Its to be seperated friday and i wish i could go crawl in a hole till then when its over,but i have a feeling it will not be over for quite awhile.The family wants me to interven,they all trust me but theres no way im getting involved!My question is,have you ever felt like doing this and what was the reason,if you don't mind me asking.Did it become o.k after a while and eveything was better?
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uath13
@uath13 (8192)
• United States
8 Jan 08
If you decide to disappear take the safe with you,,, problem solved. Otherwise you better find sone sensable person with the ability to tell your sister to *$%* off otherwise it's going to be a real mess. I hope things get better.
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peanutjar
@peanutjar (5198)
• Canada
8 Jan 08
I have the ability to tell her this,but am to,well let's say chicken,haha,i don't want to get involved because my boyfriend told me to stay out of it and not look for trouble if it's not look for me.It's good advice though,but i feel helpless.Family is suppose to stick together when there is trouble,but in this situation,the family is the trouble,at least 2 of them,one is the boyfriend.The new year seems like its not starting off in the good direction,hopefully when th end of this week comes,it will go on the right track.Thanks for caring uath:) Peanutjar:)
uath13
@uath13 (8192)
• United States
8 Jan 08
The problem isn't the family, it's just 2 members. Organize the rest of the family to stand against them.
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chrislotz
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
14 Jan 08
Sometimes this kind of behavour tears families apart. There is nothing for you to do but let your mom work it out, in my opinion. I would advice you to stay out of it. If you try to intervien you could end up being the bad guy. My mom sold her house and split the money with us kids, while she is still alive. She doesn't want this kind of thing to happen, although I can't see it happening in our family. But you never know. My mom only kept what she thinks she needs if she were to live another 25 years, which is unrealistic because she is 73 years old. But it's her money and I'm glad she kept quite a bit so she doesn't have to worry about her finances. It is so sad that families fight over money when someone passes on. At times, I am glad I only have two kids so when I pass there won't or shouldn't be any problems. Everything just gets split down the middle.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (85663)
• United States
9 Jan 08
Oh hon, that sounds terrible. I don't have any situation to relate to this, although it does sound like a situation my mom was put in between her parents and her brother. You just keep doing what you know is right. And sure you need to look out for your family, but ultimately you have to take the best care of yourself. Sacrificing yourself for family is not good for anyone.
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peanutjar
@peanutjar (5198)
• Canada
10 Jan 08
Hi AmbiePam,you are right.I have to take care of myself and not get involved and worked up for what is not my business. Peanutjar:)