Be Happy??

United States
January 9, 2008 11:05am CST
Hummm how do you make yourself happy when it seems all the world around you is falling down???? my boyfriend treats me like crap! I barely get to see my son since i cannot afford to drive to my parents My parents treat me like crap and wont help me since im with the boyfriend I am working on it im trying to find a new job fulltime so i can work both full and part time jobs so i can get my stuff together so when my son gets out of school in may i can grab him and move to a new location. It just seems life is really throwing me a curve ball i have never lived in a slum, i have never lived around drug addicts, i have never had to scrape and save so much to afford to drive back and forth to work, i have never had to worry about where my next meal will come from. This is all really getting to me its getting to me hard but i feel like i have no resolve. Im trying so hard not to go crazy yet i feel like i have already gone there!!! I was hoping 2008 was going to be a much better year for me....but seems things have gotten worse...WAIT....isn't the old saying "THINGS GET WORSE BEFORE THEY GET BETTER?" hey...maybe rock bottom isnt so bad maybe this is the wake of my life maybe this is teaching me my lesson so i can get on my feet and be stronger then i was before...do you suppose?????
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@fairyanny (363)
• China
10 Jan 08
Donn't you have any good friend who can share everything bad or good with you?Just be brave,and become stronger than before.Just believe that good days will come ,and happiness will wait for you.Come on and never give up.When nobody helps you,you should help yourself ,and when nobody loves you,you should love yourself more.
• Pakistan
10 Jan 08
you seem distressed. remember no one can help you as u can. so calm down and sit deliberately how to do away with you anxieties. analyze each problem. there are only 2 options 1. u can do something about it. go ahead, do that, leave the rest to god and dont worry. 2. u cannot do anything about it. in this case. simply RELAX. dont worry. so u see, worrying gets u nowhere. hope it does
• United States
10 Jan 08
Sounds like its time to sit down and make plans of what you can do to change your current situation. You mentioned your boyfriend treats you like crap, so let me ask, is he worth it to live like that? Is there a chance (and be honest to yourself)that he will change. I would give him the walking papers, it may hurt in the beginning but, that is one reason you feel bad, he is making you feel bad. Then look at finding a good job were you only have to work one full time job, and maybe look into programs through your state. I am a single parent and have been for several years, my parents live in another country and I have no family here in the states, I have worked 3 jobs at a time, and currently have one full and one part time job, so I know what you are going through. Take one day at a time. and believe me having a child made me grow up very fast and strong, I don't worry about things I cannot change. I trust in my faith, and I stopped worrying about tomorrow, no sense in worrying about something that has not yet happened, and that mind set has helped me allot. I wish you all the best and courage for the future, be strong, be confident in yourself, be happy.
• United States
10 Jan 08
you're with a boyfriend who treats you like crap? Dump him, honey! you deserve to be treated well. I don't know what you mean when you say your parents treat you like crap. I don't want to offend you with my question. What part do you play in being treated like crap? Maybe none. Maybe you're sweet as honey. However, you've got a child and I imagine you love your child and want to be with him. Communicating honestly but without blame might help in the case of your parents.
• United States
9 Jan 08
I think your doing a good job of reading your life. Now you need to open some windows and doors and remove the baggage. Always remember you can do bad by yourself. Why would you be with a person who treats you like this? if this is why you live where you do? It's time to search your soul and find a stronger you. There are bad places all over the world. I would rather have piece of mind than a man in my bed. Get up and get moving life waits for no one.
• United States
9 Jan 08
I think that were ever it is that you live you need to look into the programs that they offer through your state or town. There are many programs that provide for those that need help to get back on their feet. You need to get rid of that boyfried that treats you so badly. If your son is living with your parents at this time then this is your time to get away. You may not like were you have to go to do this but the ends justife the means. YOUR SON IS YOUR NUMBER ONE PRIORTY!! He needs you as much as you need him. Don't think I am just talking here. I've been there. I was a single mom for 5 years. When I first became single I had NO JOB NO CAR AND NO WHERE TO LIVE and yet here I am going strong. No things have not been easy but I know my kids love and respect me for what I have done to make sure they have what they need. Please don't think I'm being mean. In a way it is the parent in me.