Tubal Litigation Regret Any Possibility For Pregnancy?
@fallenrain132321 (341)
United States
January 11, 2008 11:12am CST
Hey guys. I know this might sound silly but I guess I fall under one of those who regrets the fact that I ever had a tubal litigation. I have a 1 1/2 year old son, a 3 year old daughter a 5 year old daughter and then my little angel that passed away at 3 years old. 4 kids and I love them all very much. I had my tubes tied shortly after having my son because no matter what I form of birth control I used it seemed that I could not keep from getting pregnant. I tried Depo and birth control pills but neither one worked. After discussing with my doctor she told me that I should look into something more permanent since I had four kids. I reluctantly agreed with her, my family, my husband's family...I went in, had my tubes clipped and cauterized and have not been pregnant since. I was set on not having anymore. My daughter passed away just a month after I had my tubes tied. I have to admit that lately I've really honestly considered being pregnant again. I've talked it over with my husband and he too regrets it. My uncle has me working for him, I just started working for him a couple of weeks ago. It is a very easy going job running a website for him. He's a computer tech and I do all of his web design for him. He pays me a very good amount to do this work for him and he even has me on an insurance plan. Just as though I were an employee for any other employer. Being set with this I am now REALLY wanting to look into ways to have another child. I've read through forums and know that while the chances are extremely remote that it is possible to get pregnant after a litigation but that most times the pregnancies are ectopic. That is a very scary thought. Does anyone know of any ways that a woman can get pregnant after litigation? Is it possible to use artificial insemination? I know that I should have put more thought into it before I went ahead and did the procedure but at the time we were struggling financially, already had four kids and hindsight happens to be 20/20. Please, if anyone has any advice, I would love to hear it. Thanks once again mylotters. Have a great day.
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
11 Jan 08
I honestly don't know much about it but I have heard of women having their ligations "reversed". I don't know how it's done or if there are any restictions depending on how it was done in the first place but I would think there may be hope for you. Talk to your doctor about it and find out if a reversal is possible and if not I don't see why another method wouldn't be an option. You still have eggs and if they can be fertilized and implanted in your uterus then ectopic pregnancy isn't an issue.
I have 6 children (plus 2 step children) and while we don't plan on having any more I refused to have anything permanent done to prevent it. I don't know what the future holds so there's no way for me to know that there will never be a good opportunity to add to our family. It really irks me how some people, doctors included, seem to force their ideas of the right size family on people. When I gave birth to my 4th, he was barely cleaned up and my doctor was asking if I wanted to just go ahead and have it done even though I hadn't signed a consent form at least 30 days in advance...she said she would just "fudge the dates". I'm sorry but less than five minutes after giving birth after a rather difficult labor is NOT the time to try to impose something like that. I'm so glad in that respect that I hadn''t been given pain meds otherwise I probably would have been out of it enough to agree to anything...and also glad that he finally came out on our last try before heading off for an emergency c-section since I can't help but wonder if she wouldn't have found an excuse to do a hysterectomy while I was under because she was very much against me having anymore children. She has 2 and thinks that's a plenty big enough family.
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
11 Jan 08
But it's still the same priciple...it's the woman's body and no one should tell her what she can or can't do with it. Whether she wants to be child free and have a tubal or "pop out" 16 kids no one has the right to tell her no. I have 6 and I'd be pretty angry if anything permanent was forced on me just for the fact I already have 6 and they didn't agree with having large families. The way I see it the size of my family is no ones business but mine and if I want to have 20 kids with MY body I have that right.
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@SixPaulEleven (552)
• United States
11 Jan 08
Try fighting to get it done. Most of the doctors a friend of mine has encountered required her to be over 35 and have kids before she could get it done. She wound up moving to Oklahoma last year and finally found a nice doctor who would do it.
It's harder to get it done if you don't have kids. It's a woman's body so I can't fathom why an MD would deny her something she wants. But it's okay to pop out 16 kids and no one says stop after the 6th one is born.
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@nichole1983 (1187)
• Canada
11 Jan 08
Sorry to hear about your daughter that passed away. Must of been really hard. The best suggest that I can give you is to talk to your doctor. They are the ones that did it and can tell you more medical information than we can. Good luck and hope everything turns out good for your family and you. :)
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@fallenrain132321 (341)
• United States
11 Jan 08
Thanks you very much for your condolences and wishes of luck. Hopefully I will get some good news! :-)
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
11 Jan 08
I had this done after my daughter. My best friend also had it done and then a year later she wound up pregnant. That was a complete shock, then she had to go through the surgery again. I know that people and some doctors say a tubal can be reversed but it is a very extensive surgery and does not alway work. I would talk to your doctor and ask him or her who else you could speak to about this and I'm sure they would help guide you to the proper proffessionals. The internet would be a good place for you to start researching on your own also. I'm very sorry to hear about your daughter. I hope things work out for you. God bless.~D
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@MommaOfAllTrades (969)
• Canada
11 Jan 08
Have you considered having it reversed?
I got my tubal ligation 7 years ago and regretted it the minute I woke up from surgery. My husband and I desperatly want more children. We are also dealing with infertility on his part so I haven't reversed the surgery yet unless we decide to go with a sperm donor.
But yes absolutely you can go through Invetro Fertilization although it's going to cost you way more than a reversal and neither one will give you 100% results.
I'll agree that you should discuss your desires with your doctor. Many will try to convince you that you have enough children however if you are good parents with a strong marriage, there's no reason why people should put a limit!
Good luck!
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@MommaOfAllTrades (969)
• Canada
11 Jan 08
I forgot to mention that you should look into your health plan as well and see what kind of coverage they might have for either a reversal or IVF!
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@Uroborus (908)
• Canada
11 Jan 08
Sorry to hear about your loss. Yes, it's a difficult descision to have tubal ligation. There is an option for you though. You can try in-vitro fertilization. Your tubes may be tied but you are still producing eggs, they just can't travel to your uterus. Doctors can take the eggs out of you and fertilize them using your partner's sperm, then implant the embryo into your uterus.
I have to say that, for women who have a steady partner, maybe the partner can try having a vasectomy instead of the woman having tubal ligation. The vasectomy is a much less intrusive and risky operation , and there is a 60% chance of having it reversed.
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@TRDreamin (67)
• United States
20 Feb 08
I am so very sorry to hear about your daughter - ((hugs)) I also understand about the Tubal Ligation Regret - I have it myself. I also plan on having mine reversed. I am going to a doctor in Rio Bravo, Mexico (he is a good doctor) and it's gonna cost me $2665 for the surgery - which isnt bad - considering the doctor 2 hours from me will charge $5500
I know the odds are small for Tubal Failure but it CAN HAPPEN!
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@SixPaulEleven (552)
• United States
11 Jan 08
Have you thought about IVF or maybe a surrogate?
Also, there are plenty of children waiting on homes in foster families and orphanages. Perhaps you could adopt an older child who needs a home?
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