My best friend couldn't come to my 40th party but made it to church the next da

January 13, 2008 8:04pm CST
Should i be upset, i have never had a birthday party in 39yrs for family reasons, so my daughter decided that my 40th would be different. So she arrange a small party for me, last night. My best friend called yesterday morning and said she couldn't make it that she had this bug that has been going around, the one that they have advised people to not even go to the doctors because its so contagious. Fair enough but today i found out that she went to church.... Would you be annoyed and what should i do? I am really upset with her..
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@youdontsay (3503)
• United States
14 Jan 08
If you are truly best friends you should be able to discuss your feelings with her and rejoice that she isn't as ill as she thought. Talk it over and work it out. Friends are worth the effort.
14 Jan 08
i know thats what i should do but i don't want to hurt her feelings in anyway.
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• United States
14 Jan 08
If you don't discuss and you continue to feel hurt it will drive a wedge between you and end up hurting her anyway. Tell her how sorry you are that she wasn't at your party because it meant a lot to you. She what she says. Maybe you can have a conversation about it then.
@nurrynoo (72)
• New Zealand
14 Jan 08
How rude! Everyone else seems to be saying rational things about this...but relationships and feelings and emotions are just NOT rational! Of course you're upset and of course you should be too. She is supposed to be your best friend, and this was an important milestone in your life that she should have done anything to be there for you. I think she knew that too, and thats why she said she was so contagious she couldn't even go to the doctor. But to go to church the next day was a silly move. Of course it would've got back to you. Have you done something recently that might have upset and offended her? Maybe she had her own resentments? I don't know, I think I may just be clutching at straws for you. I do agree though that you need to ask her about it and whats going on. It doesn't have to be a full on confrontation, just a friendly chat. Good luck!
14 Jan 08
thank you for your comments, its okay for the point about church to be raised, so what religious people are immune to contagious diseases are they? The excuse she used for not coming on saturday was not that she was just ill but, that she was even told not to go see her gp because its this super strength virus.... I can't think of anything at all that i have done to upset her, she and my daughter had a few words recently butit was a small issue which i thought had been sorted out, but like i said to my husband even if she still had a problem with my daughter surely she could have swallowed it for a few hours for my sake. I'll never have that day again...
• Zambia
15 Jan 08
Mybe she wanted to ask god for forgivness... thats what i would do if i missed my best friend's birthday party. But honestly you should talk to her about it. Also remember that while being sick it may be easier to go to church than a party =)