my husband refuses to kiss me!

Philippines
January 14, 2008 7:42pm CST
oh it's not as bad as the title suggests, but to complete it, my husband refuses to kiss me when there are people around. I completely understand his refusal or his discomfort in being lovey dovey in public when we were not yet married, but now that we are married, i find it kind of absurd. oh he doesn't really withold intimacy, it is just that he refuses to kiss me goodbye when the maid is around, even if the maid isn't looking. i find it rather irritating, for all i care, everybody has already seen us kiss when we got married. and i wasn't asking for a torrid kiss, just a goodbye buzz. i really got irritated this morning. anyway, so much for that. i just needed somewhere to vent my feelings. sigh...
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12 responses
@youless (66955)
• Guangzhou, China
15 Jan 08
I think it is normal. Especially I am from China, most of the time husbands won't kiss their wives in public. I know your husband is very sweet and nice as I still remember he plants the rose garden for you. By the way, you can kiss him. You don't have to wait for him to kiss you:)
• Philippines
15 Jan 08
right! right! right! hahaha yeah, i can kiss him instead of kissing him. why wait! if he is the recipient, he doesn't really complain.heheheh thanks girls! thanks for making me feel better!
• Australia
15 Jan 08
I can totally understand how you feel - my husband is quite shy in showing affection in public. Hand holding and arms around shoulders are ok with him but any more than that, he feels uncomfortable and I respect that.
• Philippines
15 Jan 08
hi! i think you are right. i was tempted to pout and give him the cold shoulder, but you are right, it is best to respect him. if he is uncomfortable then i will have to give it to him. i will not assert myself in that way. thanks friend! God bless you! :-)
@bishu_sinha (1460)
• India
18 Jan 08
Do as your heart tells you. But remember, the consequences when he finds out, and if you have children, the effect on them could be immense.
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 08
Hello spoiled311, *Laughs* I think it is just a small matter, friend. My husband refuses to show his love for me in public. He will walk in front of me and never want to hold my hand. He feels that it is not good to show your 'lovey dovey' feeling in public. But when there are only the two of us, he will be such a romantic and loving husband *laughs* At first, I felt irritated with his don't-care-attitude-towards-me in public but now, I get used to it and as long as I know how much he loves me, that will be alright!
@cherriemae (3375)
• Philippines
15 Jan 08
sorry to hear that friend..if i'm in your shoes, i'm sure i will become mad at him.. we ladies are very wanted to have a kiss goodbye, and in your case i think you have to talk to your husband because why he act like that well in fact you already married..there are couple there that really love to kiss even in public to show them that you really love each other..
• Canada
15 Jan 08
Oh... your husband is shy type of person.
• Sweden
15 Jan 08
oh, i think every man can kiss his wife, because wife is the most important thing for a man as being a life friend.
• New Zealand
15 Jan 08
oh.. probabaly he wants his private affair to be private and don't want to show them in public ...i have my full support to him,,,
@subha12 (18472)
• India
15 Jan 08
I think he is little bit shy of showing love and affection in public place. Still I think he loves you very much. One thing you can do. Instaed of him, can't you give him a goodbye kiss when the maid is around but not seeing?;) I think this way he can get away with his shyness.
@zhwbeast (329)
• China
15 Jan 08
I think you should not look this thing in such terrible way. I can learn from your words that your husband is a shy man,and you must forgive him in it.So the action you asked him kissing you is wrong in some way.I am a shy man also and maybe would refuse the question of kissing her in public from my fiance,so I understand his action. Also,the action is wrong in your side.Because when your question has been refused,you feel shame from it. So,maybe your husband is wrong at all,but not so terrible.
• Pakistan
15 Jan 08
It is jus normal with men. take it easy.
@asgtswife04 (2483)
• United States
15 Jan 08
Unfortunately, a lot of men are that way. They don't mind doing that in private...even if it's just a peck, but in public they find it "Not manly" or some insane reason like that. i wouldn't think to much about it...if it bothers you that bad...kiss him instead of him kissing you. LOL! Anyways, keep us posted and God bless