I was hurt!

Philippines
January 15, 2008 11:58am CST
I felt so sad today, I think I want to cry. I had a fight with my husband about little things, misunderstanding let say, yesterday he was working in his fishpond project so he need to take off a few soil from that area and transfer it from another area I know it's quite difficult and I was infront of my computer doing something that is important to me, so he keep on doing his job and I do mine I thought it was just fine for both of us. In my brother's house there is a little home improvement going on too and there is few unwanted things to be thrown away so my brother were not athome cause he has a job to and he came at around 6pm so to make the story short my husband help the worker to put those unwanted things outside our house to be thrown away. We need to put that things on the garbage area a few metters away to our house and I forget to tell my brother that he must be the one to do it coz it's his improvement afterall them my husband remind me but my brother is already sleeping. Now I'am the one who put that on the garbage area and my husband were angry at me telling me that it supposed to be my brother job and he open all bla..bla... bla... telling me that I just make my brother lazy every time he has awork to do I'am the one doing it... Now were not talking and I don't know if I'm ready to talk to him also. But when I came to bed I'm thinking that I have a fault also what shall I do next can someone give a little touching advice
5 responses
• United States
16 Jan 08
Let's be realistic. You are grown people. If my husband started in on me like that, I would laugh at him. As he would me. I would look at him and say" Are you in a bad mood or something?" And he would spout a little more about why he was in a bad mood. And then it would be over.Never any reason to scream or yell, or take screaming or yelling. If my husband were to start in, (which is rarely), I go immediately to the root of the problem. Does he have a problem with your brother? A bad day? Is your relationship stressed? I mean seriously, grown ups communicate by talking, not raising their voices and making eachother feel bad. Good luck.
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• Malta
15 Jan 08
c'mon, you're a woman, you know what to do. you said it was a misunderstanding and i think so too. It's the rush of the moment that creates these situations. someone has to start talking, so it's either you or him. but why do you have to wait for him to start. we men like being beaten on time by women ;)
• Philippines
15 Jan 08
I try to talk to him I just waiting for the right timing thanks for your advice:)
@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
16 Jan 08
This is not really a big problem,You know your self that it was also your fault just get away your pride so that it will be fine,and also explain it to your husband.Dont think your pride maybe your busband is waiting for you to talk to him.Godbless!
• United States
15 Jan 08
Hey you know its easy really. Just tell him your sorry you forgot to tell your brother. Plus, he worked so hard earlier and looked so peaceful sleeping. Tell him you would have done the same thing for him if the tables where turned. Tell him that you appreciate and respect all of them. Its not cause hes your brother its your human nature. Plus, like you said he was out all day working right?Your hubby was so he came in crabby cause he was tired and looking for something to complain about. Because you guessed he was tired and he knows that even if he argues with you that your relationship is strong enough to stand. He has that much faith in you!
• United States
16 Jan 08
hey girl, its what it is-a misunderstanding..so just tell him the facts and say sorry..best of luck.lol