Wanted to adopt me but husband sabotaged the idea

GEting rid of the crib and high chairs didnt stop you from adopting again and him turning against Christanity didnt have nothing to do with you being infertal . Y a just wasnt meant to have your own you were meant to adopt some people are picjked out for that ya know!

You should not be so hard on your husband. You should talk to him about how you feel and ask him how he feels. Maybe he has a valid reason for not wanting more. Maybe he wants more but is not wanting to keep all the toys, clothes, furniture, etc. Maybe he wants to get all that stuff in the future should you have anymore. Besides be thankful you have what you have. Some women never get to be a mom. I find it hard to believe that you are being punished by God for your husband's lack of faith. God would not punish you for his doings. You may not be infertile. It may be all about timing. Any way I suggest you love the children and husband you have and keep the faith.

My husband and I married at a very young age. I had already had a son by a previous engagment that was not meant to be. My husband raised my son as his own along with our son and daughter. After each child we gave the things to other mothers we heard about through church, the local community, Some of these mothers I wondered if they had even heard of jesus as they were unwed and lived in run down dwellings. It brought tears to my eyes knowing they were bringing a child in this world that they had very little to provide with. Some of these mothers, I found out had given the babies up for adoption and blessed a family who couldn't have any of there own. So perhaps your husband saw someone that had less than you both and felt that by giving the items away he was being a christian and sharing. God works in mysterious ways and often the angels you see on earth that give unto others ...don't have wings but a heart of giving. God Bless you and your family and may you always be blessed with children around you.

We were planning to but it is unlikely to happen. It's too much money to have kids now, adopted or not. None of us sabotage the idea, we always review our budget every now and then and I know that he agrees it is going to be a big pressure to have kids right now. Throwing unused items your husband just doesn't see the need of keeping them, even my husband does that to his fishing equipments. Have you talked to him about this? that you think you sabotage the idea?

I have two naturally born children. I would dearly love to have a daughter. Adopting one would be very difficult. I think it is sad that it is so challenging to adopt a child, even internationally. It is great that you adopted two little boys. I think your husband feels a bit bitter about your infertility and that is why he has turned against Christianity. My first teaching post was in a Catholic school and I had a few adopted children in my class. One was a little girl that was doing well in her school work and she had many friends. Another one was a little boy that had been fostered then adopted. He came from a terrible background and had much anger about his sad past. His older brother had lost all his hair through the stress he had been from. Hi younger sister was a happy little girl. I am so pleased that the three children were adopted to a loving married couple that couldn't have any children naturally. I think it does no harm to keep your son's things. Life can change and you may well adopt again in the future.

I think you will need to understand that as the boys are growing up - they will need to change what they currently and already had. I can understand his logic as it would just be impractical keep them as they will occupy vital space in the house and extra burden with their upkeep. I do not think giving away to non Christian couples has anything to do with his anti Christ totally (if you know what I mean). It may just be a sense of timing besides maybe someone really needs them more than any of your friends in Christ. Also, sometimes we can never really know if your infertility could be totally cured, had your husband not turned his back on Christianity. Hope you can see the other side of the coin too. It could be becos of other reason(s) known or unknown that caused him to. I hope that you will continue to be Christlike and pray for him. Who knows God may work in His Way and change his outlook and life totally. Just remember not to forget that we need God here too.

I don't understand how giving the crib and stuff away has sabotaged your future adoptions. You can still adopt and get a new crib and things. They are just material possessions. But also you can't blame your infertiltiy on your husbands non belief. I'm sure even if he believed in God you still would be infertile. Only a doctor could have helped you with that. You have two boys and that's wonderful, why would you want more children? Could you actually afford to adopt more kids?

I always keep everything from one child to the next. I still have clothes that my daughter wore 11 years ago that I put on my little girl now. My honey and I are planning on either adopting or using surrogacy to have more children in the future since i can't have any more of my own. I wouldn't think your husband has sabotaged any future adoptions he has just caused you to spend more money if you two ever adopt in the future.