January 23, 2008 2:31pm CST
I nees some opinions so please help me. I am currently seeing a man who i have been with for 5 years as of June. He is by far the best i have ever had; treats me like a woman, respects me and, get this, accepts my 3 children (all boys). In this day and age, who could ask for more? However there is a problem. My family hates him, well, actually i wouldn't say my whole family, just my mother, middle brother. You see a few years ago, my brother came to my house and violated my sweetie in a very violent way and two of my children were present also. Because of the bad choice he made, my brother had to go to jail. Ever since then, my mother (who by the way, John asked ifhe could take me out on a date) hates him and so does my brother. He fails to see the real reason why he went to jail. My brother and John have had run-in's with one another and my brother says that he will never let it go but right now i cannot afford to move or else i would becaue i live right next door to my mom and my brother does too. I don't know if i explained things enough but can someone give me some advice?
23 Jan 08
Do you love this man? The word love wasn't mentioned at all in the above. What your brother did was wrong, but was it your boyfrined who pressed charhes of the police. If boyfriend he has added to the problem by pressing charges when perhaps it could have been resolved as a family. I feel for you in this very difficult situation more so because of the close proximity of your mother and brother. If you love this man stand firm and try to resolve things with your mum. Also question why they do not like this man. Good luck
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24 Jan 08
Lust comes and goes. it was very clear as to him and your family bonding. I see no reason in your post why he pressed charges. This would make it better understood on our end. As I am very sure of this man is the gem in your life. Not anyone on go's green earth should be allowed to shatter that. Put your kids first,your man comes next your a grown woman and deserve a life. Good day and stay strong