OMG! Hairy Black Tongue!

@peedielyn (1210)
United States
February 5, 2008 1:11pm CST
I have an odd question here after I tell you the story. I have been friends with this one guy for about 9 years. He never bathes, gets a hair cut, or brushes his teeth. I have noticed this all these years and wondered how in the world I could tell him about this problem. I've made hints like "I love a clean smelling man" or " I love it when a man looks and smells good" and other corny stuff like that. He has tried to get me to date him, but honestly he's rather homely and I just don't dig "dirty" skinny guys. Just recently he told me that he went to the doctor and he told him that he has what they call Hairy Black Tongue. He showed me what his tongue looked like. I asked him what that was exactly and he said he doesn't know. I looked it up on the internet and it made me gag. It is mainly caused by not brushing your teeth, smoking, and lots of coffee drinking. Basicly it's the same thing but worse as thrush in a babies mouth. When I seen the "yeast infection" part of it, I got sick to my stomach. I know he smokes like a freight train, drinks about (not joking)6 pots of coffee a day, and never ever ever brushes his teeth. How in the world do you tell someone that they need to start bathing and taking care of themselves. He has two teenagers that are going down the same path.
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@nancyrowina (3850)
5 Feb 08
If you've tried subtle hints maybe the only way round it is to be blunt, you may lose his friendship if he takes offense but I doubt it, if he's as bad as you say I imagine he doesn't have many friends! Perhaps wait until he asks you out on a date again and tell him exactly why you don't want to go on a date with him (except the part about being homely and skinny, as he can't change that with a bath and a toothbrush). Or maybe on his next birthday buy him a grooming kit and a box of aftershave and shower gel, you can get lots of different combinations in gift boxes. If he doesn't take that hint then there's no choice but to tell him straight I suppose. Its an awful shame if his kids are going down the same path too, I bet they get bullied at school because of it too.
@peedielyn (1210)
• United States
5 Feb 08
LOL you are right, he can't change that with a bath. I think this is a great idea. The boys' birthdays are coming up soon, so I will be sure to get some gift baskets out to them. WOW! I am about a blonde. I make and sell gift baskets like that.(bonks on the forehead). The boys get teased alot. I was making it a habit to cut their hair on a regular basis, and before I did, I would make them shower before then after to make sure they got all the hair off. I would do the dads but he just bluntly refuses, saying he'll take one after (which never happens). I do alot of black guys hair, which tends to be greasy (from hair product) and their hair is so much easier and cleaner to do then this guys. Thank you for the wonderful idea and response!!
• United States
5 Feb 08
I would have told him years ago that he needs a lesson in personal hygiene. I don't know him but if I were friends with someone like this I would be as blunt as possible. It's not like they are oblivious to what they do so telling him what you think shouldn't come as a surprise to him.
@peedielyn (1210)
• United States
5 Feb 08
Hello, cynicalandoutspoken,The thing about that is - is I am a blunt and obnoxious person. I never made anyone feel like I was better than them but I used to point out to people things like that when i was in school. I guess that's what I am going to have to do. Thank you for the response!