When is enough enough

Canada
February 7, 2008 10:24pm CST
My life sucks I am in a loveless marriage with 2 teenagers who fight over everything I am so unhappy most of the time. The only joy i have right now is my littlest one and she sees how the other two have been acting and she is acting up. I don't think i can take the crap anymore. When is enough enough
3 responses
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
8 Feb 08
It really sounds like you need some time to yourself. I know it's probably impossible but you really sound like you need it. I hope it all works out. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
• Canada
8 Feb 08
Thank you all for responding. I don't know what i will do. I had hoped when I woke up this morning things would be clearer but they are just the same. I don't think counselling is the right way i don't think i want to save my marriage. We have been married 20 years and we have tried over the years to make it right but I think there comes a time when its just not worth it anymore. I am the one that is left to deal when the older two act up he just leaves. Who needs a man that can't be there to help when help is needed. I would love to just get up and leave but can't cause i am MOM I have to be here no matter what. I just know I can't take another 20 years of unhappiness.
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
8 Feb 08
I've always lived by certain rules and one is "If your not happy where you are, change it". I'm by no means telling you to leave your marriage or your kids, what I am saying is that you are the only one that can change your situation. If it were me, I'd take a long hard look at my life, pull on my big girl panties and start fixing whatever is wrong. I hope you can find some happiness. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@humbleme (1004)
• India
8 Feb 08
Hello kakuemmom,I think the best way to deal "enough is enough" situation by not let it arise,breaking is very easy building is very hard,if you have not visited a marriage councillor along with with your husband then you can think about it and might be your husband too going through social and mental frustrations which he is not sharing with you,so I think you should give him a chance to rectify himself, however if you are yourself are noway interested and no other alternatives left and you think you can earn your bread and butter then break yourself free.Thanks
@trickiwoo (2703)
• United States
8 Feb 08
I don't really know anything about your situation besides what you've posted, but have you tried any sort of counseling? Before giving up completely, you should try your hardest to work things out. Seek help from professionals, this isn't something you can just ignore and hope it gets better, or something that you can fix yourself. Enough isn't enough until you've utilized all of the resources available to you.