Were you or anyone you know on a personal level Adopted?
By gandatwo
@gandatwo (602)
Australia
4 responses
@kris182_2000 (5444)
• Canada
10 Feb 08
I have mixed feelings about my adoption, it's been really hard since I found out many years ago.
My mother has some mental issues, but she's my mother.
My son was adopted as well, not by choice though. It's been hard eve since I lost him almost 8 years ago.
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@gandatwo (602)
• Australia
11 Feb 08
kris182,Yes it can be very hard,however there are many avenues available to aid you in resolveing any issues you may have regarding this.KKKBsmom's book recommendation may just do the trick!You also mention your Son,did you adopt him,or did you have to have him adopted out? I am a little confused here,but hey that's easily achieved..lol
You Take care now,and have a "Funtastic Day"
"Cheers"
@KKKBsmom (1092)
• United States
11 Feb 08
Yes... read the primal wound.. there are so many other good books out there... if you want... send me a message and I can maybe try and find you the book to help you...
but there are so many people that have gone thru adoption... adoption hurts so many...
take care,,,,and holler if you need any help!
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@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
11 Feb 08
My sister... I was the only child until I was 16 years old. My parents decided that they wanted to adopt. During that time, my mom's sister-in-law (her brother's wife) was pregnant. Since my uncle and aunt were not really that financially blessed to raise two kids, mom and dad talked to them about the possibility of adopting the baby immediately after my aunt gives birth. Well, everything went well. My sister knows about who her real parents are. We told her at an early age. I love and care for my sister so much! My sister is turning 13 years old this month!
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@gandatwo (602)
• Australia
11 Feb 08
What a well balanced and united Family you must be part of dolc vita,and proud of I am sure.
I must agree with you I personally would have liked to have been told of my adoption at an early age.Guess there are many,many different and unusual circumstances regarding this,many emotions stirred up as well.Think it all boils down to weighing up what if any,repercussions may follow such a revelation to each "paticular" child.I am sure the adopting parents take this into account.I did have a Professional in this field tell me her department felt seven years of age they found to be an excellent time to tell the Child.Evey case would present it's challenges,therefore perhaps researching literature on the subject just may settle some issues relating to adoption.
Thank you for your sharing,and do have a "Great Day"
"Cheers"
@KKKBsmom (1092)
• United States
10 Feb 08
I was adopted and the best thing I ever did was locate my birthfamily!
some adoptees have great lives, others have okay... and others wonder their whole lives.
I was the wonderer...now I know...
a good book to read if you are an adopttee is "The primal Wound."(I am reading it now) another GREAT book so you can see how you mother might have been is "The Girls that went Away" why did they give so many away ... lots of good answers!!!
If anyone wants to ever find and needs help holler and I will try and get you pointed in the right direction!
@gandatwo (602)
• Australia
11 Feb 08
Wow KKKBsmom,sounds like a book for all those out there wishing answers and guidance.I too was the wonderer,and I too located my Birth Mother.I have since been able to move on with my life in a much more understanding and positive way.
Thanks so much for your sharing,I do feel many will benefit from your response.
"Do have a Beautiful day"
"Cheers"
