I hate surprises....

Surprise - I hate surprises
Saudi Arabia
February 13, 2008 5:01am CST
Hi all, I know this might sound weird for some people but I really hate surprises... I don't know why.. maybe because I'm a Scorpion and we normally hate surprises not sure... Here is the thing.. My boyfriend loves surprises I used to think it's very romantic that your loved one surprises you and do something you really like without telling you. But that was before me being surprised:s I actually ruined two so far because I get mad at him each time he hides things from me... He was planning to show up on Valentine's day's party that my friend invited him to. He said he's not coming and started making problems with me -because he wanted to come and surprise me- I freaked out and lost control I actually was about to break up with him... Then he said he was coming -I sound stupid right??-.. Anyways now he's very upset and mad at me he decided not to come. I'm going to be alone in the party... What can I do? And what about you do you like surprises or you hate it as well????Thanks.
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11 responses
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
13 Feb 08
Dear Friend all i would say that surprises are part of life some are intentional surprises and some are really surprises like winning lottery or lucky draw or things like that u should take them easy and take a little time before responding. impulse respose is not not good so control urself. as in impulse reaction u might be hurting some oe or hurting urself and both are not likeable so take a chill pill and relax Take care
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• Saudi Arabia
16 Feb 08
Thank you for your response.. I bet my bf will love your response :p
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
18 Feb 08
u r welcome well i am sure he would like it but what about u
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• Saudi Arabia
20 Feb 08
Of course I like it and appreciate your participation... :)
@nancy555 (29)
• China
13 Feb 08
Sorry to hear what had happened to you, in fact i think surprise is a good thing, at least i like it. as for you i think the problem is not the suprise, but it's your boyfriend who had not arranged and planed things well.if before you see the surprise, everything is as usual, and nothing bad happened, at this time don't you like surprise which drives away the boring life?
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• Saudi Arabia
16 Feb 08
Thank you thank you thank you.... Finally someone got my point... thank you :-*
@gloria777 (1678)
• India
14 Feb 08
Irrespective of your hateness or my likeness, suprises always make people exciting. But I agree with you that sometimes it creates a hell.
• Saudi Arabia
18 Feb 08
Thanks for the response.. it wasn't a real hell.. I just thought about breaking up :p
• Philippines
14 Feb 08
when it comes to surprises, i can say im neutral. i can do without it and appreciate it when i do get one. on the other hand, im the one who loves to give surprises. maybe because i'm a hopeless romantic. and because i love making people feel awfully special. but i do get really upset when my plans don't materialize. of course if it's a surprise you would have to consider the person's agenda too. imagine putting up a surprise party in a friend's home and later realized that the friend went on a caribean cruise! that would total blow me into proportion. LOL
• Saudi Arabia
18 Feb 08
lol Agree.. And I really appreciate nice surprises.. for example one of my friends asked me about my favorite color I told her it's green so she got me a very lovely and cute green iPod on my birthday.. I really loved and appreciated it, it was so thoughtful. One more thing.. I think we should plan for our surprises so we don't ruin others' plans.
• Philippines
14 Feb 08
I like surprises but no one ever surprised me with anything and it sounds fun :( I guess you over reacted when you learned your boyfriend won't go to the party but I guess you should keep in mind that we can't always go places with our boyfriend..Maybe he was planning something special for you..Anyways, if you don't like surprises tell him and let him know how you feel so this wouldn't happen again. Tell him you appreciate his efforts in surprising you but that you don't enjoy it. Talking in a relationship will keep the relationship much closer.:)
• Saudi Arabia
18 Feb 08
Hi there... I talked to him, he said for him surprises are the core of romance :( I like surprises no one hates them.. But my problem was the hurt he caused before me knowing he is planning for something.. This part I hate... Thanks for the response :)
@nangel78 (1458)
• United States
14 Feb 08
Depending on the type of surprise, I do like them. If it is a bad one that will cause harm in the process, then I do not like them. If you know that the person does not care for them, then I would not do this to them.
• Saudi Arabia
18 Feb 08
I wouldn't mind a nice surprise... Thank you fro your response :)
• Philippines
13 Feb 08
I feel you; I don't like surprises as well. I think it has something to do with how it throws me off my regular rhythm. It sounds irrational to some but that's how I feel about it.
• Saudi Arabia
18 Feb 08
Thanks for the response.. I don't think all surprises are bad, some of them can make your day :)
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
13 Feb 08
Hehe, the Scorpio like misteries and surprises, so probably you are not a typical one:P But if you mean the typical daily surprises as undesired or unexpected guests...or may be a party when you are not in mood ...i support. I am the same.But some surprises can be really pleasant. Just dont forget:the people who make them actually want to please you, not to annoy you. So show them your politeness and delicately explain that may be this doesnt work for you.
• Saudi Arabia
16 Feb 08
I agree with you, scorpios are mysteries that's why they hate being in the dark.. Plus what really upsets me is to be treated in a bad way because someone wants to surprise me.. you know what I mean?? This kind of surprises I hate :( Thanks for your lovely response...
@subha12 (18453)
• India
13 Feb 08
I also hate surprises. i fear surprises i must say. in most cases i think those surprises will not be happy endings for me. As in life there had been nothing happened so that i can think myself to be lucky. If i get some gift by surprise, its ok, not anything more.
• Saudi Arabia
16 Feb 08
I will love a surprise a gift.. as long as people don't fight with mebefor giving it to me... Thanks for the response.. wish you the best of luck ;)
• Saudi Arabia
13 Feb 08
As for me, I don't like surprises too, unless, it is a greeting of something i am not aware of or someone gives me a present that I've always wanted and longed for, But generally, I don't like surprises, similar to that, sudden visits, let us say I like someone but all of a sudden he drops by in a time that may not be suitable for me to receive him. Got me? Honestly, I dont hate all surprsis, let us say my first ex called well I don't deny oops anyway I guess nuff said huh Thanx Princess for your lovely post xxx
• Saudi Arabia
16 Feb 08
Mmmmm... well I think it's a scorpio issue then :p I really hate being in the dark... I mean to receive a gift that I always wanted is very nice will definately like it, but to have fights with someone or being ignored because he/she is preparing a surprise for me this is what I hate.... And I will hate if my ex called me ;p Thanks dearfor your response...
@anonymili (3138)
13 Feb 08
Surprises are all well and good if they don't hurt someone in the process. I think it's stupid to arrange a surprise birthday party for someone and in the process make out like their birthday has been completely forgotten. It just makes the person miserable in the days leading up to the surprise. On my 40th last year my husband arranged a surprise party but we went out with my friends for drinks I do every year and as it was my 40th even more friends turned up compared to normally. Many of these friends came to the surprise party the next day too. My husband knows how I feel about surprises that make people feel bad and he wouldn't do that to me. Imagine how I would have felt if everyone I had invited out for drinks had said they were too busy or had made other plans?!
• Saudi Arabia
16 Feb 08
That's exactly what I mean... I hate surprises that ruin you day then turn into a good thing.... Thank you for your response..