How do you deal with this ?

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Hello everybody, I would like to learn from all of you regarding something that just happened to me a few minutes ago. I'm going to write it in a "general" way, please apply it in any situation at all you may have encountered in your life experience. I was doing something, everything was going really really great, after that I made a decision to capitalize what I was doing, no problem. Immediately after doing so, I was doing something else that brought my attention and my MEMORY, " I should have done this first, and then do what I did in the first place !!! " No harm done, I mean, it didn't affected me at all, I could have received some benefits by doing what I remembered afterwards, but it can't be changed, it might be possible to repeat it in the future, but not right now, what's done it's done. These type of blaming will be in my head for some time, even know that it didn't affected me, it was just something that could have improved some other thing, I hope I'm being explicit. Now, imagine when it's something that involves more valuable things, like people, feelings. When something hits me in a personal way, even things that don't affect me directly, it gets in my head and I may even carry it for years "what if this had happened?", "why did this had to happen?", "this wasn't of my concern, but I feel like it did". For one thing I guess it involves in some way guilt, insecurity, depression, and several other negative feelings, can you relate? If so, how have you dealt with it?