How do you deal with this ?
February 15, 2008 12:20am CST
Hello everybody, I would like to learn from all of you regarding something that just happened to me a few minutes ago. I'm going to write it in a "general" way, please apply it in any situation at all you may have encountered in your life experience. I was doing something, everything was going really really great, after that I made a decision to capitalize what I was doing, no problem. Immediately after doing so, I was doing something else that brought my attention and my MEMORY, " I should have done this first, and then do what I did in the first place !!! " No harm done, I mean, it didn't affected me at all, I could have received some benefits by doing what I remembered afterwards, but it can't be changed, it might be possible to repeat it in the future, but not right now, what's done it's done. These type of blaming will be in my head for some time, even know that it didn't affected me, it was just something that could have improved some other thing, I hope I'm being explicit. Now, imagine when it's something that involves more valuable things, like people, feelings. When something hits me in a personal way, even things that don't affect me directly, it gets in my head and I may even carry it for years "what if this had happened?", "why did this had to happen?", "this wasn't of my concern, but I feel like it did". For one thing I guess it involves in some way guilt, insecurity, depression, and several other negative feelings, can you relate? If so, how have you dealt with it?
21 Feb 08
Hi jal1948, I agree with that, but sometimes for some people (I include myself)it is easier said than done, maybe the way of life, the personality, and some other characteristics influence in making somebody think that way, what would you consider to be helpful when somebody has a hard time "controlling" those thoughts ?
• United States
28 Feb 08
The way I deal with the situation is that I always remind myself that it happen for a reason, God has a plan for all of us and I leave it in his hands knowing that he knows best, even though it may not seem like it at the time, I alway put my faith in him. That is what brings me peace and helps me not to worry. Give it to God on go on. Hope this helps.