Problem with someone at work, PLEASE HELP!
@WhiteDoveLost (139)
United States
February 18, 2008 6:27am CST
Lately, I've been having a lot of problems with this guy at work.
I'm a keyholder at EB Games right now and I love my job completely. The only thing I can complain about, is this guy. For whatever reason, he has such an attitude problem with both employees and customers. This is the seconds time him and I have had a real problem, but this time went over the line for me.
To make a long story short, the dude was asking me to do seemingly bogus no point stuff, not giving me a reason why I was to do this pointless task and when I told him I had better things to do than his pointless task, he told me to just leave or he was going to clock me out.
Mind you, him and I are the same position. Which is why I think we have this problem, I've worked at this store since September but I transfered from another state when I went to college in PA.
Anyway, so for about 20+ minutes, he is yelling at me, telling me that if I hate my job to just quit, to do it because he says so. But the thing is, I went to do it twice before coming back and saying to him, it's already done, why are you trying to get me to do this again? It wasn't even some easy task, it was something that was going to take me the rest of the night. It was pretty much restickering half the stores merchandise with stickers that were the same as the ones on them.
This led to him finally getting pissed off and going to call our manager. He yelled at him that I was refusing to do something he told me to and so he comes back out and tells me that the manager wanted to speak with me.
So I go into the back and lose it. I start crying, mainly out of frustration but also because I really suck at confrontation and having to really tell someone "No I'm not going to do that".
So my co-worker who was there the whole time had to explain everything for me and I stuck in the bathroom for 15 minutes trying to regain myself before going back out.
When I do finally go out, my co-worker had left shortly after getting off the phone, it was just him and I, so I completely advoided him the best I could, helped customers, cleaned up the store and finally he comes over and tells me that he was sorry he made me cry and that he had clocked me out while I was in the bathroom. He said it was his fault he didn't explain why there was restickering.
I just told him he was going to change my hours back and he did. Then he did the restickering the rest of the night.
I guess the manager let him have it, he must have called him back when I wasn't coming out of the bathroom and he told him I was back there crying, would be my guess.
Everyone has a problem with this dude, he is always being rude to everyone and no one can stand him. He's been transfered from 4 different stores in the same area, because he can't get along with the people he works with. Mind you, I'm 18 and he is in his late 20's.
He is constantly calling out customers on things like, leaving trash in the store or just being a complete d*ck to everyone. I have the right mind to go above my manager to get him fired for some of the things I've witnessed, but I don't want to get my manager in trouble because he is a really nice guy. Just too nice that he doesn't want to cause any problems. He just wants everyone to get along.
Anyone have any idea what I should do? This man is on the verge of verbally abusive to me and just stressful. I work with him this coming Sunday and completely dread it.
8 responses
@vulgarlittleprincess (919)
• Canada
22 Feb 08
Perhaps you could first speak to this employee and explain to him how he makes you feel. He probably did not realize until he knew you were crying how badly he affected you and how he made you feel. If this does not work you can explain to your boss how he makes you feel and ask him to let you two works different shifts. As you are in the same position I really do not see a need for the two of you to be working the same shifts. First i would see how sunday goes, maybe now that he knows how he affects you he will make an effort to be nicer to you. He probably hates his job but is unable to find another one or a better one.
@WhiteDoveLost (139)
• United States
22 Feb 08
Yeah, but he was gloating to people that he made me cry. I don't think he feels bad at all.
@vulgarlittleprincess (919)
• Canada
22 Feb 08
Well, beat him with a stick!
no, not really tho it's tempting isnt it?
Try talking to your boss about having different shifts than him
@clowdine (1402)
• Philippines
18 Feb 08
That's okay, Dude. As long as you do not act like him, you are far better off. It is even more difficult if you have that attitude because it may back fire to you. But good thing is you are more patient than he is and you do your job and most importantly, you don't bully others. The bullies are the ones pitiful come judgment day because God does not like those who are oppressive or fund of taking advantage of others.
@WhiteDoveLost (139)
• United States
18 Feb 08
Thank you for your comment. I try my best to be far from anything like that. I know that what goes around comes around.
@Justareceptionist (870)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I think that's great that you're continuing to still work with him. I've had a similar situation happen to me when I was working at a tanning salon. I gave them a taste of their own medicine when we shared shifts. She, too, was picky about how I did my work and would tell me things like, "Why are you leaving so many lotion samples out for the customers? No one's gonna buy them." She was not my superior so I felt like I could do the same back to her. I'd do little things like writing "not finished" on her shift's inventory when she wouldn't completely count the bottles. I would also point out ANY minor mistakes she'd make just to piss her off. She finally lost it one day and started screaming about me to my friend, who was also a co-worker. It pretty much made my day.
@JimmiesMommy (29)
• United States
27 Feb 08
When I was 18, I would have cried too. Now that I'm 33, I guarantee would one of us would leave the store forever sobbing and it sure the heck wouldn't be ME.
You are going to have to stand up to him or you'll always be miserable around him.
@clinsbull (192)
• China
2 Mar 08
it is alright for u but he in his late twentys ,if that does not word ,just ignore him the best way that u can.and if he says something stupid .tell him to grown up .perhaps u could first speak to this employee and explain to him how he makes u feel.he probably did not realize until he knew that u were crying how badly he affected u and how he makd u feel .i really do not see a need for the two of ui to be working the same shifts .first i will see how sunday goes ,maybe now that he know how he affects u he will make a effort to be nicer to u .
@koalatbs (2229)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Oh goodness WhiteDoveLost... I am so sorry you have to put up with this person at work. There is nothing worse than having to deal with someone at work who is making your job so difficult every single day! It is hard & it sticks with you. I actually just had a dream last night that I was arguing with my ex-boss and I stuck up for myself in my dream & told her off. I told her how she is degrading to the people who work under her, demeaning, rude & insensitive. She treated everyone under her like they were stupid... like we were little children that didn't know anything. If you didn't do something exactly HER way than it was the WRONG way! And I'm talking about stupid stuff like using your mouse to do a simple task on the computer instead of using a keyboard shortcut. I worked as a transcriptionist. She'd just look at you like you were a complete idiot and shake her head in disgust. I sure hope I never work for anyone again who treats me like that, but unfortunately sometimes you have to because you need to pay the bills. Has anyone else ever worked for someone so horrible that you had nightmares about them? Sometimes it would seem like I never left work! I'd work all day dealing with the *B* and then have nightmares about her at night! Who else has dealt with this?
@whywiki (6066)
• Canada
19 Feb 08
I feel so bad for you. It has happened in my office too where one guy seemed to get off making the new staff cry. He was all talk and no substance though and soon found he had few allies in the workplace and eventually moved on to terrorize some other co-workers. I think he probably needs a taste of reality and the other workers should rally together to let him know his behavior won't be tolerated. Or maybe you could get transferred but then again why let him win. I hope this all works out for you.
@CheshireKat (564)
• United States
22 Feb 08
If no one can stand him, maybe your manager should do something. If he's being this way to everyone, including customers, then he probably shouldn't be a part of it.
I'm not really sure why he's been kept on this long, you would think after 3 store transfers they would just toss him out on the curb. .
