I have never asked anyone to be my friend

@p1kef1sh (45640)
February 21, 2008 8:09am CST
on Mylot. This is not because I don't think that I am friendly. Quite a few people have asked me to be their friend, so I guess that in a round about way I do have MyLot friends; but because I really feel that in asking to be a friend I am somehow intruding. There are people that I would like to ask, but just don't have the nerve. Am I just being silly, or do other people feel this way?
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11 responses
@anonymili (3138)
21 Feb 08
I guess it's a fear of rejection that stops you asking people. And when you come across discussions like mine that I started not long ago saying I hate receiving friend requests from people I've had no contact with it doesn't help any. That's not to say that people whose discussions you regularly you participate in are not going to be pleased to see a friend request from you. I generally don't ask people to be my friend either, not because I'm scared or anything but I think in my case it's laziness lol. I always assume I will get friends requests from others and generally I accept the ones whose discussions I have taken part in and those who've responded to mine. Maybe you'll get lots more friend requests generated from this discussion itself. x
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
21 Feb 08
Thank you. I hope that I might get a few enquiries! On a completely different matter, may I PM you please? It is to do with your website.
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@anonymili (3138)
21 Feb 08
I've sent you a friend request, once you accept me, you can send me a pm, that's the only way you can send pm's here as far as I know :)
@ellie333 (21020)
21 Feb 08
I have requested people to be my friends but usually after I have replied to some of their discussions or they have mine and I feel that there would be a lot in common and discussions that I could get involved in. I have also had a few friends requests and have checked their profiles before accepting, when I first joined I would accept anyone but some in hindsight I don't really have that much in common with. I have requested some that have not been accepted, but don't feel it as a rejection, maybe they haven't been online since or maybe they don't like some of my discussions. I'd say go for it, request and see what happens. Ellie :D
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
21 Feb 08
Thank you. Maybe I'll give it a go.
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• United States
2 Mar 08
you have a good star and rating so you are doing ok..the friend thing is very easy to do..as its all things to different people..do we really consider the people on here as "friends"? well, maybe..but it is an over used word..like "LOVE" and others..it can be real..but too often spooken without much real thoght or effort..but then again to some it is a very serious thing..i feel sill sometimes but I think I have a thick skin and someone sooner or later will prove me wrong and i get my little feelling hurt...goood...as pain means you still do have feelings although it hurts..its better then being numb to any emotion or feelings..thankz
@p1kef1sh (45640)
2 Mar 08
I think that you make a very valid point. I have a small group of friends on myLot who I regard as being as close as it is possible to be without ever having met. I know their real names and in some cases addresses. But I think that you have to be a little selective. Thank you.
@rdurusan (624)
• Philippines
22 Feb 08
I,too have never asked anyone to be my friend.But i have many friends because everyone who asked me to be their friend,i added him or her to my lists of friends.I only rejected one because of his bad reputation as told by other members of mylot.So my question to you will be has anyone asked you to be his friend?
@p1kef1sh (45640)
22 Feb 08
As I say in my thread that started this discussion "quite a few people". I have a lot more now. Thank you for your reply.
@goldic (26)
• Indonesia
22 Feb 08
maybe you can start to make friend with only one person. But be honest for the first time, don't try it with a girl that make you crazy. Just make a friend with someone on your area of your activity. Let say on your working area. Find someone older that you, try to make a discussion on something about jobs. Just do it everyday, and without you realise, you already interact personally with the person.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
22 Feb 08
Thank you for some very good advice.
• United Arab Emirates
22 Feb 08
Hi, Don't be afraid to ask for friendship. It is such a sweet thing to have friends. I often get requests for friendship and I do accept them as my friends. I really feel accepted. I never felt that the other person is intruding. So, remove this thought from your mind and go ahead in making friends. Nothing is as sweet as a sweet friend. Take care and regards ...
@p1kef1sh (45640)
22 Feb 08
Thank you, that was a lovely response.
@balasri (26549)
• India
22 Feb 08
Well it is a forum meant for friends and everybody who comes here knows that and prepared to to react to the call as a friend.So I think that there is no problem in asking for friendships and I don't consider its intruding.By the way will you be my friend?
@p1kef1sh (45640)
22 Feb 08
Thank you. Of course, I would be very pleased to have you as a friend and look forward to having some discussions with you in the future. Thank you for replying.
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
22 Feb 08
Don't be afraid to be pals on here! I just added you as a friend dear and I do hope you will be mine. I find this place a very close group of people and most everyone is very friendly. Hope to chat soon Vicki oxoxox
@p1kef1sh (45640)
22 Feb 08
I do so agree about how close you can become with people on this site. I would be delighted to have you as a friend. Thank you for offering.
@ashjoe76 (1434)
• India
21 Feb 08
I believe you have to muster up courage to request friendship here. Because it is very important to have friends at mylot. One of the reasons why we keep posting discussions here is to know how our friends would react to them, eh? Moreover, your status here will also improve a lot with the help of a few good friends :)
@p1kef1sh (45640)
22 Feb 08
Very pertinent. Thank you for your reply.
• Turkey
21 Feb 08
you may think you are silly but i think this is the best(not asking for being friend) because in a friendship everything must be naturally without asking for.this is the best way of making good friendships.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
22 Feb 08
Thank you for your reply. Here on MyLoy though, if one of you doesn't ask then you cannot formally be a "friend". But I understand what you are saying and appreciate it.
• Philippines
21 Feb 08
Oh thats ok..I don't invite people to be my friends as well. I just don't have time to go to others profile since I really just came here to work on discussions and get paid. I am a very friendly person though don't get me wrong but that's just my reason. I have lots of friends here already though they added me and I never let anyone down and I accept all who asks to be my friend. :)
@p1kef1sh (45640)
21 Feb 08
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply.