What do you do?

If I may, life can be real crappy at times. I know because I am living it. But will you keep on doing the same, or try to move on? Before you feel I don't know what I'm talking about, let me give you something on what I went through in the past decade. Got divorced and had to pay child support; lost kids to father, but got them back two years ago; working at jobs I don't like, having a car that keeps breaking down no matter what I do for it. etc, etc.

Main thing is you are in control of your own destiny. It will be that way until you cross the line on human behavior and bring in other people who may restrict you from doing what you want to do..If you cannot control your own emotions then I would get hep from the many social servies that are available You need someone you can trust to keep fromm making a lot of confusing decesons. If you cannot take care of your own emotional problems dont expect someone else male or female to be strong enough for "Both" of you..in the end they will get tired and you may pull them down to your world of depression and hoplessness

Life really sucks at times but you got to get over it. My life ain't that better but tell you what..I live my life through it all.How? I don't think about it much I try to put it aside. I smile even though behind that smile there's a bunch loads of problems...I don't take it so hard to affect my life. I try my best to keep up with life even if it means just holding on to a thin string. You know what I mean? Well, anyways you just have to find something to keep you busy with so you won't feel so down. I believe you can work on it. Learn from your mistakes and keep your head held up high even if you got a stick behind your back. Here's hoping for the best for you..Take care!

Many a time I have felt like this and have often felt like giving up. I was in a seven year relationship which was going down the drain and felt I couldn't get out. I was lucky enough to find someone who helped me out of it and now I am happily married to him and it will be seven years this year. Maybe you just need to take a step back from whatever is happening in your life right now and find out what it is YOU want, not your partners not your families wants, but what YOU want in life. If there is someone that you are close to that you can trust and talk to and for support, that might be a start too. We are here if you need to vent and talk more. There are lots of caring people out here and many offer great advice and lots of support.

Never give up no matter how hard it gets, there has to be something to you that would make it worthwhile getting up in a morning. There has to be something in your life that you can do or want to do that would make you smile and be happy again. There is always a way to a happier life, If you think you would be better off on your own, maybe you would and maybe you should. I dont know what has happened to you to make you feel like this, but I hope that you find a way to be happy again.

What always works for me, and believe it's the hardest thing to do, is to focus on the good things. I have times where everything seems so messed up and get down and feel like giving up, but then I try to pick one thing in this life that makes me happy and focus on that. It could be an activity you enjoy, like for me riding my horses or curling up on the couch with my dogs to watch a movie or read a book. Or it could some small thing my husband did for me that was nice. Lately, it's been my son and my husband in general. Anyway, once I start focusing on that and I get into a better frame of mind, I'm able to look at the problems and find a way to deal with them. It's all too easy to focus on the negative, especially when it seems like everything that can go wrong is going wrong. Focusing on the positive helps with being able to take a step back and look at everything in a different perspective. Whatever you do, I hope you can find something to help you feel better. If you feel like you can't, please, find a counselor to talk to.

I've seen it written (though I can't for the life of me tell you by whom) that you are never given more than you can't handle. And you've heard the saying what doesn't kill you makes you stronger - boy isn't that the truth! If you're drowning take deep breathes and keep swimming. For some life is real easy, or so it seems from where you're standing. For others it's a very hard road. At least when you get to the porch and rocking chair stage you can look back on your life and say 'it was tough, but look what I achieved.' Better than wondering what the hell you did with your life. You are succeeding if you haven't given up. Even if your depression is the worst it has ever been, if you still see a little bit of hope you are winning. What do I do? Breathe deeply, sulk, complain, grind my teeth, cry, get tired, sigh. But to date I've managed to brush off the dirt and keep going when I needed to.

I don't know what you are going through that would make you feel such dispair, but I've been at that low before and its no fun. Without knowing more all I can do is offer you my friendship and my support. Please know that there are those of us out here that don't know you, but have you in our prayers and in our thoughts. I have lost family to depression and as their survivor it affected me very deeply. I hope you get the support you need.

There are alot of things that you could do...you might need a few days to yourself if something is going on in your personal life...like if you are fighting with a girlfriend or something like that...you might want to stay away for a few days to see what you really want and what you don't really want...so just take some time and think about what is best for you!

When life seems to throw way to much at me I try to sit back and take a look at everything that has happened. I find that if I take a look at everything individually instead of how allt he seperate events have impacted me then it is easier to figure thigns out. Things that may seem like a huge inconveneince in the grand scehme of things may not be as horrible as I first thought when I break it down individually. I do not know your situation nor am I professional who can offer sound advice but I do know that if you write down all the things that are on your mind and all the thigns that are upsetting you hen you can begin to tackle each one indivudually. Best of luck god bless

counseling, ummm try to relax as much as possibly I'm sure that sounds silly , try hot baths, hot chammomile tea, they both might be helpful to you, I also turn to god to help get me through it, He is my rock and I know he can bring me out of anything .