how will you handle this scenario..

If possible, I think your daughter should take the initiative to apologize to the first girl for making that comment and then explain herself (if possible). She could also promise that she would never say things behind other people's back anymore. Finally, it's up to that first girl to forgive your daughter or not. I think apologizing, regardless of whether the other person forgives you or not, will make you feel much better.

Well, you need to tell your daughter to stop all her lending business since it create a huge mess out of it. What I can say is the fault lies at your daughter for her comments. If she doesn't comments then friend 3 may not overheard it and tell friend 1. I understand that it may due to speaking remarks however, you need to be careful on the location. There are few quotes which I want to share with you as follows: 1st Quote:"There is always a ear behind the wall." 2nd Quote:"Words have to express carefully as rice can be eaten recklessly." Maybe, many of you don't understand the meaning of 2nd quote. The meaning is if you ate a plate of rice and ran to the toilet several times after digestion, you will be fine after seeing a doctor and taking your medication. Unlike talking and expressing words, people may not understand what you are trying to express and get misunderstood in the end. I hope you can check out my discussion on the title: English Lesson for Me.

I think every one of us are victim of misunderstanding at any point in life. I have faced a few in past. i raelly do not remember any of them now. it acn happen. i think your daughter can try to openly say her point of view. whoever is going to accept will accept it. Otherwise your daughter cann avoid thsoe people in future.

well it is hard when gossip starts. Maybe your daughter learned a valuable lesson from this. The best thing to do when someone comments about someone negativly. Just dont say anything. Change the subject or just tell them "I have to go now'

I don't think your daughter should bear the brunt of the outburst as she is the benefactor and she is only passing a remark which is rather superficial. I think the one who related the story is the guilty party for one I certainly do not like people talking behind my back. I find the whole thing as slanderous here. Your daughter should get her to apologise since the other party has vehemently declared that the money was not for her b/f.

It was your daughter's fault for believing the hearsay and easily misjudge her friend. It was already misjudging because of adding side comment. Talk to her friend, apologize and explain her side. If her friend will not accept it. Don't sorry for herself. She admit her mistakes. It is better to say sorry than doing nothing

as one philosopher said.. a slip of the tongue you may never get over.. your daughter made a mistake of saying those words in front of her friend, she can say that comment in front of you instead. sometimes our worst enemy is the friend who heard unlikely rumors, even if your daughter's intention was good and did not meant to offend or being sarcastic to her friend, the other person whom she told that word too might make a hocus-focus and retold the whole scenario making your daughter sound offensive. the best thing for her to do is to approach that friend of hers and make some apology, she can explain her side to let the other know that she has no bad intention. the third friend should also explain herself, she must tell the exact words she heard otherwise the explanation would be useless.

She should ask for forgiveness if the person does not forgive her she should go back and ask her with witnesses if the person still does not forgive her then she should dust her feet of that person and let YHWH handle it

I don't think it's specifically anyone's fault. If friend #1's intention was really to give it to her boyfriend, that it's true that she's lying, but maybe she was just afraid of getting rejected by telling her true intentions. How has #1 been behaving all this time? Also, how does #2 know that #1 intends to give the money to her boyfriend? Does #1 have any intentions to return the borrowed money? If yes, then I don't really see a big problem in this case. There are some things to sort out, though, if they want their friendship back: 1. Clarify #2's accusations (source, etc). 2. Ask #1's intentions on returning the borrowed money. 3. If #2's accusations are false (in this case, it's #2's fault), then she needs to apology to #1. 4. If #1's intentions are to give the money to her boyfriend, then she owes an apology to your daughter for lying. 5. #3 owes an apology to everyone, for making a big mess out of a not so big problem. I had encountered a similar situation myself, and clarifying accusations really helped sort out the problem. When the circumstances are clearer, everyone can think for the better. Don't you think? Hope this helps.