How do help someone that can't help themselfs

United States
February 24, 2008 3:00pm CST
I had this 18year girl staying with me for three weeks. Her boyfriend had beat her up and put her in the hospital. While she was in the hospital the told her she was going to have a baby. She is a friend of me granddaughters and I took her in my home. She said she wanted to change her life, but she wasn't doing it. She would lay around on my sofa all and sleep and stay up all night on my computer and be on the to all kinds of different men to see if she could come stay with them and eat all of the in the house. Finilly I had to ask her to move out of my House, because she wasn't showing me that she even wanted help or wanted to change.
2 responses
• Canada
25 Jan 09
Well, the first thing I would have done when I took her in was to get a organisation that helps single pregnant girls. She couldn't change because she has no tools to help her do this. Being pregnant also she would be sleeping alot or staying up all nite too..vica versa and would eat more. She is in such need that she was seeking help..anywhere because she wasn't actually getting it from you. You gave her a place to stay to eat but that was it. How can she help herself when she doesn't know how. I have helped alot of girls like her and I always got professional help for them and when they had their babies I helped them so that they could get on with their lives. I have had alot of babies named after me and even some of those babies grew up and have called me to say..Thanks alot. One has to do more than just offer a place to sleep and eat. Poor thing was seeking on the internet. How desperate she was and then thrown out because she couldn't and didn't know how to help herself and what did she have to change? How can she change if she doesn't have the right help? She needed more than just a place to stay.but help with her being pregnant, what was she going to do with the baby etc etc etc.
• United States
30 Jan 09
The girl was into things that I did approve of. And Later down the line she lost the baby , because of those things.
• United States
30 Jan 09
Let me correct that did not approve of.
• Canada
31 Jan 09
Exactly, she needed to have someone help her and she did whatever because she was distraught, afraid and lost. Now if she had an organisation that would have taken her in ..she probably would not have done whatever and the baby would still be alive.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
it is just about right for you to actually do that since she is clearly showing that she is not helping herself.. where are her parents anyway? is she really pregnant with her bf who beat her up? i feel she might be lying on some things and yes. it was about time for you to give up helping her.
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