Help!! Does my husband's best friend have a thing for me??
@raynestormwolf (85)
United States
October 30, 2006 2:43pm CST
My husband is an inconsiderate ahole. He was great until we got married and then he changed into an JERK!! His friend however is HOT!! He comes over to the house several times per week and he is eye candy. He was not around when we got married over a year ago but he came back to town in June of this year.
I'm not too sure how his friend feels about me. But, once he came over before my husband got home and the kids were gone to their Dad's house, so the friend and I were at my home alone. He told me,"Do you want to freak your husband out?" and I said"how" and he said,"Let's undo my pants and when he starts to walk in the front door I'll act like I'm buttoning up my pants in a hurry." He also has made the statement in front of both my husband and I that"things would've went differently if I'd been around when you both met."He does something everytime that he comes over, more than once per visit. He starts to pull his shirt up about half way plays with it for a moment and then lets it back down, I don't know if he's trying to get me to look or what, but it works.
My husband and I are on the verge of divorce. Infact, we talked yesterday about splitting up when the income tax comes in early 2007. Do you think his friend is interested in me from what I've wrote? Do you think it's wrong for me to act on anything while I'm still married to a very emotionally abusive man that has even tried to run me over with our van, that was just this past Friday.
So, have you ever had a crush on your husband's best friend? What happened? Guys, if you're reading this does it sound like he's interested in me? Help me out here people. Thanks:)
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
30 Oct 06
Leave your husband ASAP if he tried to run you over!
Stay away from your husband's best friend! This man is not interested in you as anything but a conquest! If your husband's best friend cares for you, he wouldn't provoke situations that can get you beat up or killed! He would be a gentleman and wait for you until you are out of your bad marriage! And another thing...he's NOT a friend to your husband, either, not if he's hitting on you! Run fast, run far, from both men!
@raynestormwolf (85)
• United States
30 Oct 06
You sound like a very level headed person, thanks for your advice.
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
30 Oct 06
Thank you, and you are welcome! Sounds like a very dangerous situation. You are putting your children at risk also. Another thing: children learn by example. Do you want your sons to grow up to be abused/abusers? Do you want your daughters to grow up to be abuse/abusers? Stay safe. You can get help from your state or county if you don't have family to help you.
Think about the kids first. Your ex-husband can't get back together with you if you are murdered by your current husband.
What kind of memories do you want to create for your children? Think about it... (hugs)
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@MrsFrizzle (1963)
• United States
30 Oct 06
If you think he is intrested in you ask him tell him the way he talks makes you feel uncomfortable. Possibly ask your husband for his advice as well.
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@Jshean20 (14349)
• Canada
28 Dec 06
Well it sounds like you're very much out of love with your current husband and that he has hurt you very badly, both emotionally and even tried to hurt you physically! What you said about your husbands friend does suggest that he could have a thing for you, either that or he has a very wild sense of humour! Does "the friend" know that you and your husband are planning to split up? I wish you luck in moving on and if his friend is nice and seems like the type who would treat you well, I say go for it. It would be a different story if your husband had treated you well though, cause it could be rather hurtful for him to see you move on with a friend of his, but this doesn't sound like the case at all.
@megainfobites (630)
• United States
30 Oct 06
From a total dude's point of view, sure, he may be interested in you but perahaps only sexually. I say this because of the nature of his explicit commentary with you. Just don't assume this guy will step in to be your next husband. In all likelihood, his intentions are strictly carnal and depraved.
@killailla (1301)
• Canada
30 Oct 06
ya if he tried running you over, you should already be divorced. And even if you are on the verge of a divorce, who cares, no reason to cheat. Did you ever think maybe your husband is putting his best friend up to this, so that he will have grounds to divorce you and not pay alimony or large amounts of child support? Is it not the old saying bros before hoes?
@forfein (2507)
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30 Oct 06
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Guys, if you're reading this does it sound like he's interested in me? Help me out here people. Thanks
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He starts to pull his shirt up about half way plays with it for a moment and then lets it back down, I don't know if he's trying to get me to look or what, but it works.
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Hey Lady
This guy knows EXACTLY what he is doing. He knows you fancy him, and it sounds to me like he is gonna get you where he wants you.
Take this from a guy........ he will love you... and then LEAVE you.... I have done it, I know
@cybrgwlf (78)
• United States
30 Oct 06
Well to be honest with you, yes he knows what he is doing. Alot of the attract could be coming from trying to get something he cant have, a married woman, and if you give in to this "eye candy", You will just be a notch in his unloyal belt. Will he move on yes, because it is not really you he is after it is the fun of the chase. And would you really want a man like this, obviously if he cant be loyal to his friend and respect you enough not to behave that way, what would he do if you did get together? would he be faithful and loyal to you? you can do alot better for yourself.
@rhane2005 (174)
• United States
30 Oct 06
If your husband is abusive now, I don't think it would be a good idea to jump into a relationship or even a one night stand with the friend, think about what your ex would do when he found out!
@classy56 (2880)
• United States
28 Dec 06
sounds like your playing fire with fire,you better get a divorce frist an see how well your husband handels that he may not take to well with dateing his bf.
@agrawalnakul (648)
• India
28 Dec 06
i think he is intrested
and u too go ahead with it
afterall u rgoing to brake up rite
