are you a people pleaser?

I think that there is a lot of difference between being polite,decent,gentle,friendly and boot licking.I am polite and gentle to please myself first.

I am one of the world's biggest people pleasers. For me it is actually a problem because I let people walk all over me. I don't necessarily agree with what people say per se, but I tend to make decisions based on what will make other people happy rather than taking my own needs and wishes into consideration.

Once upon a time I was a people pleaser. But not any more. Now I don't want people around me and don't like to mingle with people, not even with dear ones. I am thinking these days why I am like this, and would like to come out of it. May be my past experiences made me like this.

well I try to be but with mixed success. In my early youth, when I had lot of misplaced self-belief I was under the impression that I could conquer the world on my own. Years of struggle and losing out to others have taught me that no, sometimes it is in my interest to kiss the a** as you say. I have done it, I have felt bad, I have reasoned with myself that I really needed what I got after the kissing. Wouldn’t say I love it though or that I have made a habit of it, I think its one of the many necessary evils of life. But there are people who have a permanent smile pasted on their face. They are forever agreeing to everybody around them, nodding their heads in (false) appreciation and supporting everybody against everybody. I hate these types. They are always trying to keep feet in all the boats around them, they don’t want to antagonize anybody and are forever willing to bow down and salute. I am not and will never be like them.

I think where ever yopu go you should be yourself and not fake to be somebody else. The quality of people pleasing is inbuilt and it comes out whenever necessary but not people who be pretentious about it.

I would definitely NOT do that! I am not that kind of person who would put my feet in all boats just to please everyone. I don't think that my pride would allow me to do that. Moreover, my ancestors might wake up from their graves and haunt me if ever. lol! I almost lost my job because I am not like the others in our office who would just say yes to the whims and caprices of our boss.

One thing is that i don't suck up to anyone..i don't really think that my pride would ever let me do that..because I am not someone that goes to people and ask them for something...but i do try to please people if there is anyway that i could do it..but i wont let people just run all over me...so i guess that iam in between

This is what i learned, that if you try to please people you will not please anybody not even yourself.