spread love to the old

For me this would be a hard desion only because I'm an only child. I live 4 hours away from my parents. If it got to the point were I was never seeing my husband or my children, I would probably consider putting them in a home. I hate the idea and I'm going to try not to do that option but if I have to I will. I would rather have me take care of them not in a "place". That's just me though. I have always tried to make sure my parents are okay and get what they need.

I agree somewhat. If your parents needs are basic, like cooking the meals, doing the laundry, keeping the house clean, then I really think children should care for their aging parents. It isn't so much trouble to wash an extra load, change sheets one more bed, or use a bigger pot to cook dinner. And at the same time they are included in family activities like meals and just being together. It enriches everyones lives. However, sometimes elderly people have medical conditions that require a great deal of care. If they are needing someone available to them at all hours in case of emergency, or need help using the toilet or other things that must be done frequently, it is not unloving to to place that person in the care of a good nursing home that can fulfill these needs. You have to be very careful though if that is something you are needing to do, that you do a lot of research on the homes in your area and find one with an excellent track record and few complaints.