How do you MOURN the dead?

@raijin (10373)
Philippines
March 1, 2008 11:28pm CST
Last night I spend some time on mourning my friend's eldest brother, who passed away due to multiple organ failure. I think his bro was just about on his 30's, very young for a person to die on that cause. It's also a very ironic, since my friend's sister-in-law is pregnant for their very first child. Some said that it was an exchange for life, one will pass away and another one'll be brought up in this world -fatherless.. =( And the fact that his brother already new that he's condition was hopeless, he also left some will for them to fulfill(?). So here's my first questions.. Is it that important for a will to be fulfilled, knowing that you're family is in a condition of having financial struggles? Would you still follow the will, so please share.. Now it took at least two weeks for his brother to be laid to rest, as this is just normal here and a part of our traditions. The other reason of that is also the fact that some families cannot afford the bills for the funeral rites and other expenditures concerning that matter. I would also want to learn more of your cultures and traditions regarding this matter, of how you mourn and pay respect to your departed loved ones. Thanks, hope to learn and hear from all of you very soon..
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@gratitude (181)
• South Africa
2 Mar 08
I do not belong to any specific religion i am simply walking a spiritual path. When someone close passes on, it is of course a shock to one's emotions as it's the physical loss of the loved one so tears and heartache will follow. But been spiritual I know that they are no longer with me physically but definetely in spirit form and I can still talk to them and receive back from them (your inner voice). The physical loss takes a while to move on with one's life but eventually you do. Each birthday, father's day, xmas day etc, we go to the local garden of remembrance and place flowers in a special spot we have chosen for that person. (most have been cremated and ashes sprinkled in the garden) As my son was still young when his dad passed I created an album of pics taken while he was still with us - for my son.
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@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
2 Mar 08
You do have a good and a reasonable choosing that path, I believe it is not about religion but it's how we prefer to live. I myself do not rely on religion to govern my life, I chose to believe from what I knew and was told in to walk the path I chose. What you did is as I'm sure, will be greatly appreciated by your departed husband wherever his spirit is right now..
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@mari61960 (4895)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Oh Raijin, so many losses in such short time we have both had. I try not to cry alot as it is really just me feeling sorry for my loss of them. I know in my heart they are in a better place getting ready for their next journey. That keeps me fairly sane through it all. So hang in there my friend...we will all meet again..I am certain of it. Blessed Be
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
4 Mar 08
You know, I was really surprised that you've returned from being active again here and also the sad news you shared with it. I can't even imagine this being discussion I posted, that there would be something that is related to both you and somehow me to leave us. As much as I could, I would never want to mention our friend's name here and even talk about her for it only brings tears to my eyes. Thank you my friend for being so understanding, I'm sure that we'll all get to be where SHE is right now. Take care of yourself, hope to see more of your activity here!;)
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@mari61960 (4895)
• United States
4 Mar 08
I know it was hard for me to tell people of her passing it makes it all more real or something. Well life goes on....I am going to try and sign on at least one time a day. I did go through and clean up my unresolved discussions...phew..that sure took a while.. So now it's clear sailing. The best to all of us. Mari
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@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
4 Mar 08
We have to make out what is left of us, at least the best out of it. I'm glad that you're slowly catching up here, take your time and good luck to all of us!;)