Do you keep a chore list
@libertarianfreedom21 (3198)
United States
March 3, 2008 1:32pm CST
A couple months ago I started a chore list, I did this once b4 with my ex b/c i lived with a family of 8 and they expected me to do all the work so I said im going to do a chore list and make sure everyone gets equal amount of work, anyways differant story, differant time. I did this for my step kid, and so I wouldnt have as many chores I know I dont work but I also dont have to clean the whole house. They dont have as much though. Anyways, it was going good (but not exactley as planed we would skip out on chores sometimes) and so my fiance didnt want it anymore, all his friends that it was funny that I had one, and he doesnt want it anymore. What do you think is it stupid to have a chore list?
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I don't think it's stupid at all...just hard to enforce. There are 8 people living here and the majority of the work is left to two of us, and she works full time too. I'm the SAHM so I understand having my share of things to do but sometimes I thinks it's excessive and more than is reasonable. Unfortunately since I'm the only one home I'm also the only one who knows how much I do during the day. Having a list might help clear that up for those who question why I keep asking for some help in the evenings.
Even if your fiance doesn't want one for him keep having one for yourself just to show how much you really do. It may come in handy during those heated "Well I work, you don't arguments"...s/o dared pull that one during Valentine's dinner of all times and I didn't speak to him again until dessert.
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@libertarianfreedom21 (3198)
• United States
3 Mar 08
gawd man, they just make me mad LOL. He does his share of work to but hes still a man. i cant believe yours did that on valentines day he could of waited at least lol. Yea when i kept a chore list they were like why od you have so much more than us, and this is after giving them some of my usual chores, So then they reliezed how much i do, i told them b/c i stay home so I should do more. it did help to make them relize how much i did. I told my fiance to give his kid a allowance and now he gets 5$ a week for doing his chores. I'm going to try to do it without a list for awhile and see if we still get things done then go from there. I know that 8 people are hard to take care of, mine was almost all adults, one was a 14 year old.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Grrr...yeah right in the middle of dinner our living situation got brought up which led to me commenting about the work load...which led to him saying "well then you go out and work for 8 hours and I'll just sit at home with the kids"...8 hours would seem like a vacation compared to my normal 16 plus "mom hours" on no more than 3 hours straight of sleep. Here we have 4 going on 5 adults and 3 little ones age 5 and under. Taking care of things related to the kids is fine with me...although help from dad would be nice but I end up taking over a lot of the other chores that the others used to do just because they won't do them anymore and I'm the one home all day having to deal with it if left undone. Like taking out the garbage, burning the papers, taking care of their laundry that gets 'forgotten' in the washer and dryer. Plus the kitchen is expected to be perfect when MIL gets home from work so she can start dinner for FIL...so we either eat dinner at 4pm or have to wait until 7pm or later until she's done in there. I could go onand on about the issues I have here!
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@libertarianfreedom21 (3198)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Man i fill so bad for you and fill your pain, sorta, I would say ok ill trade places, but like he ever would really do that. He would fill your pain if yall traded places. really my last relationship family was most of the problem, they hated me and made my life worse on purpose.
@Aingealicia (1905)
• United States
4 Mar 08
It is a necessity in my life. The chore/to do list. You will find with out it that your life will become very unorganized and that it is more cost effective with it. Do an experiment. Don't make the chore list for a week and then see how much your mate thinks it is not necessary.
Ainge
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@libertarianfreedom21 (3198)
• United States
4 Mar 08
i didnt make one for this week and so far its doing fine, but i just tell them what to do, i didnt do my chores yesterday though and my fiance did them for me LOL, i better do them today b/c i do fill bad when he does my chores b/c i sit at home all day doing nothing.
@CherylsPearls (1269)
• United States
4 Mar 08
I certainly don't think it is stupid to have a chore list. I don't keep one because in my household there are 3 grown women...we've got it all down pat! But, if I had other members of my family who either forgot or just didn't do their part, I would probably make a chore list for them!
@miller1978 (1101)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I actually think it's a good idea to have a chore chart. With my household I am the only one home full time so I do most of the cooking and cleaning, shopping, paying the bills, and everything else that comes up. When all the kids are home on the weekend they have to pick up their own rooms and do their chores or they don't get their computer or playstation time. It seems to make things more simple and less argumentative around here as well.
For me I usually make a list up throughout the day of what needs to be done the next day so I can plan around when the baby is napping for me to get the most work done. I usually start a load of laundry and then do the dishes up if I didn't get them done the night before. If I plan ahead I can usually maximize my time more wisely and get things done a lot faster. It also teaches the children that if they get things done they will have more time to do what they want and to get what they want.
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@libertarianfreedom21 (3198)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Yes when we got custody of his kid it took him like 9 hours to do his homework, I finally got through his head the sooner he gets done the sooner he can go play, now he gets homework and chores done, and still has plenty time to go play b4 dark, Now we need to teach him to be more positive he really has a downer on life, his step dad was abusive, mostly mentally but physically too. We finally have it where he will never see his step dad agian, and if his mom moves back in wiht his step dad she wont see her kid for sometime, and only with supervised visits
