Now I think maybe friend is more important than lover~

It is hard to tell which is much more important for your life. If I have to select one of them, then I will choose a lover. After all, my husband is the one who can be with me all the time no matter what happens.

Totally agree with you. I don't know why I can't handle the relationship with partner well. I value the friendship . We share ideas, take care of each other and help each other when whoever is down. Friendship lasts longer than marriage.

Yes, I think your right. For some reason when you get into a relationship you find yourself not saying the things you would say to a friend. I alway told my daughters. Don't destroy a friendship with a relationship. I was always a fram beleiver that when you take a friendship to a relationship it never last. I would never date a friend when I started dating. And I was always truthful with them when they would ask. I alway told them I value our friendship and I don't want to ruane it with a relationship. One day my oldest daughter started dating a guy that was a friend frist. And after they broke up they were no longer friends ether. My daughter then understood what I ment, when I said "Don't ruean a friendship with a relationship"