How do you handle a mentall ill mother?

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Hey everyone. I really need your advice on this matter because it has been an ongoing thing my entire life (I am 25) and it is only getting worse. My mother has Multiple Sclerosis and is in a wheelchair. I understand that her disease is traumatizing but she is also psychotic. I am currently 4 months pregnant with twins. The company I was working for closed down so I lost my job and therefore, my bf and I could no longer afford our apartment. We both moved back home until our financial situation is more stable. His family is extremely happy about our twins and are very supportive. My family on the other hand, wants me to get an abortion which makes me sick because how many people are lucky enough to have twins WITHOUT the help of fertility? This is my miracle and I would not trade it for anything in the world. I am disgusted that they would even bring up the "A" word. Now, so you guys know, my bf is Puerto Rican and I am Italian so our twins are going to be half spanish and half Italian...my mother is constantly calling my unborn twins "sp*cs" and says she wants nothing to do with them. She calls me names, tried to get me to lift heavy things and when I say I can't, she says "Well maybe it will help you lose those mistakes"...today she said to me that I need to move out so I called Social Services and made an appointment to see which rental assistance programs I qualify for. She turns around and says "You f*cking b*tch, now you're going to leave your sick mother to have unholy children?" I was like, you just told me to leave!! I hate living here and try to stay with my bf most of the time...but he lives in NYC and me in Jersey so it's a trip from his house to my little part time job. My mother is extremely mentally ill, won't take meds, and is the cause of me feeling suicidal lately. I cry all of the time, stay in the guest room all day long, talk to no one, and I just can't take it anymore. Why would a mother treat her daughter this way? I really want to separate myself from her and the rest of my family because they are ruining my life. Is this right? What would you do?