Do your kids have a bedtime?

United States
March 5, 2008 11:59pm CST
I am just curious if there is a certain time that you put your kids to bed. I don't have a set bedtime for my children. I put them in bed however at 9:00 tonight. It is 11:49 and they are still not asleep. They start getting loud, getting up, and playing. pretty much, not minding, because they are suppose to be going to sleep. So, I was just curious if your kids have a bedtime? If they do, do you think it makes them ready for bed more easily?
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• United States
6 Mar 08
I try to put my daughter in bed at a certain time and she does the same thing. It annoys the crap outta me. Im hoping when she starts school this year she will get on a better schedule. It is almost 1:30am in the morning and she is still up. Ugh. I really dont know why she stays up so late. I think she has some kind of sleeping disorder.
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• United States
6 Mar 08
My children must have the same sleep disorder because it is 12:46a.m. here and one down one still up. And both of them will be up at 4:30a.m. roaring to go. I just can not help but wonder do they not ever feel sleep deprived because I do. I wish I could run on that little sleep. And they have so much energy that I steadily have to tell them to settle down. Who Knows? Makes me wish I had their energy too!!!
• United States
6 Mar 08
Well it is 1:15a.m. and both of mine are finally out like lights.
• Canada
6 Mar 08
How old are your kids? That makes a big difference. My son is 8 and he goes to bed at 8:30. We have a bit of a routine, but not too much - basically he needs to be ready for bed by 8:00, then I will either let him watch TV with me until 8:30 or I will read to him. Routine makes a HUGE difference in getting kids to go to bed. Also having a basic rule where they need to stay in their rooms with the lights off after bedtime even if they lie awake helps. My daughter is only 4 months, so no set bedtime for her yet. She tends to knock out around 9:00 though, which works out pretty well.
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• United States
6 Mar 08
My son is three and my daughter is five. The only routine around here is that I get up at 4:00 every morning and take my boyfriend to work and come back home. His Mom watches them so I don't have to wake them up but nine times out of ten at least one of them gets up. Sometimes both of them sleep through it. See, I leave the TV on. Maybe that's the issue. They hate the dark and are scared of it. I guess maybe no routine has a lot to do with it though.
• Canada
6 Mar 08
I definitely think that kids need routine. My kids need their sleep my daughter goes to bed at 7pm and is up by 8am and my son goes to bed at 8pm and is up by 8am. Rested children are happier children. If my son was still awake at almost midnight he would never be able to get outta bed for school. Kids need to know what is expected of them and if you expect them asleep by 9pm and they are in the routine they will be.
• United States
6 Mar 08
My kids can stay up till 2 in the morning and be up at 4a.m. with more energy than I ever have. It makes no sense...
• Canada
8 Mar 08
OMG that is absolutely crazy geepers. But it's probably because that's what their bodies are used to. I hope you can get them in bed sooner so you can have more time for just you to relax. Well all need downtime lol
@SukiSmiles (1991)
• United States
6 Mar 08
My kids have a bed time. Granted the time has changed as they have aged. But it's lights out by 9:00pm. If not, it's hard to get them up for school the next day. I do think that it's easier to get them to go to bed as well. During the summer we are more lienient and the time fluxuates and it's harder to get them to go to sleep. So, summer time, no later than 9:45pm.
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• United States
6 Mar 08
So the younger they were the earlier they go to bed and the older they are the later they can stay up? I always had a bedtime and I hated it. I guess that is why I had one though. Bedtime is horrible arround here. I leave their TV on because if it goes off they just scream like they are hurt bad and I don't mean they cry. I don't know why they only act that bad at bedtime. They are really good kids. Everyone has to make sure and tell me that.
@heart143 (1202)
• Philippines
6 Mar 08
I put my daughter to bed at around 9:00 pm, that's her sleeping time. I turn off the light, put the night light on, play her sleeping music and give her bottle. In a few minutes, she's asleep. There are also times that she's unable to sleep at night, probably when there are other people around or when its noisy outside. It's good to have a sleeping time for children so that they can get enough rest.They start feeling sleepy whenever it's almost their sleeping time, so making them sleep will be easier. You can also finish all your work when kids sleep earlier.
• United States
6 Mar 08
Thanks. I would definately get more done if they went to bed earlier. I find it easier to clean when everyone is gone or outside so when everyone is asleep would work well too. I never thought of that. Funny too cause for some reason I cet the cleaning urge at night. Maybe it's been a sign all along.
• Australia
6 Mar 08
I managed to put my son to bed at certai time but I always fail. Sometimes it's fine and he can fall to sleep after going to bed. Sometimes he just find some reasond and try not to go to bed, and it cost me a long time to persude him. Sometimes he is on the bed, but only fall to sleep after 2 hours. I don't know how can he do that!
• United States
6 Mar 08
Yeah for some reason at bedtime my kids have a to-do list. But I want to clean my room. I goota go to the bathroom. I'm hungry. I need to go to the bathroom again. I'm thirsty. I want to spend some time with you Momma. That is a good one because I mean what do you say to something so precious but you also know it is a copout so they can stay out of the bed.
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
My kids have no bedtime.. They sleep whenever they want. we do try to have them sleep early but they keep playing and making noises and sometimes fighting about who gets the pillow or who lies where.. I let them sleep whenever they're tired. I let them enjoy mornings and afternoon for playtime so they will get tired and sleep early. ;P
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
7 Mar 08
When my son started kindergarten, I still didn't have much of a set bedtime for him. Then he went into grade one. I started a set bedtime for 9pm, or 9:30 depending on how tired he was. I noticed that it was harder and harder to get him up in the morning. During this time, I noticed it was hard for him to concentrate in class and I finally ended up talking with a counsellor from his school and she gave me suggestions and one of them were to put him in bed at 8pm. I told her that his favorite show was on at 8:30pm. She told me to record it so he could watch it in the morning while he would eat his breakfast. I did try it.. putting him to bed at 8pm, then taping his show and letting him watch it in the morning because he was actually able to get up an hour earlier with no problems. Now he's in grade two, and he still has his 8pm bedtime. When the weekend arrives then we'll maybe let him stay up till nine or ten. I'm not sure how many children you have and what the sleeping arrangements are, but I only have one, and he has his own room so I think that's why it's easier for him to fall asleep. Do your children have their own rooms?
@Guardian208 (1095)
• United States
6 Mar 08
They need a set bed/sleep time and so do you. You need time for yourself as well. Are they still taking naps? If they are I would stop them so they are more tired at night.
• China
7 Mar 08
i am very surprised where the energy come from?i have a daughter,only 2-year-old.she stays up till 12:00pm every night.about 9:00pm,i wash her face,hand and feet,then she says:mum,go to sleep.then i take her to the bed,and change the sleeping clothes.she stay in bed,i will read the story to her.it takes more than 5 minutes,she says:i will go dowm the ground,then do it herself.and go to another room ,playing there.one moment,she comes,let you tell the story for her again.go and return several times every night.till 12:00PM.i am very surprised where the energy comes from?
• India
6 Mar 08
Mine bed time tonight 9:30 & if who any person awak me very bad.........
• United States
6 Mar 08
I currently do not have children, however I have worked with many. I find that it is a good idea to have a set bedtime for children because it shows consistency and enables them to have a good nights rest. Depending on the child's age is how I would determine a bed time for them. I do think that having a bed time makes it easier for the child to get ready and go to sleep, the first few weeks are rough if you have not done this in the past though. You have to keep getting up and putting them back into their bed, not talking to them after the second time of putting them back there. They kick and scream, they might even say mean words, but if you are consistent they will fall asleep. :-)
@mom4kids (657)
• Canada
6 Mar 08
My kids are small, 5 and under and there bedtime is 7. They have always gone to bed really good. Sometimes my 2 year old cries a bit in her crib or will talk in her crib but she goes to sleep after awhile. I find for me my kids need consistancy, they need to have routine, they usually have a show before bed so when it's over they know its bedtime. Thats just the way its always been so I've never had a problem with bedtime.
• United States
7 Mar 08
My kids are in bed by 8 PM every night without fail. I consider the time after they go to bed my time. It is time for me and my honey to spend together without the kids up our butts. LOL
@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
6 Mar 08
I have 3 kids and yes they all have a bed time. My 7 year old and 1 year old go to bed at 9 my 11 year old goes to bed at 930. On the weekends they normally stay up till when ever. As for what makes it easy for them to go to bed. At 830 we all get on the couch and read a story or two. My youngest has he last bottle at that time. When we are done I put my youngest down while my 7 year old does her before bed time things. After I get her to bed its about time for my 11 year old to do his last couple things. They don't give me any problems because they know bed time is bed time.
@vera5d (4005)
• United States
6 Mar 08
My son always battled me for bedtime since he was 2 years old...he'll be 5 in a few weeks...what I do now is at 9:30 he has to be in his pajamas and in his room. I will let him watch movies or play with his toys as long as he stays in his room. If he comes out though, the lights go off, the tv is turned off, etc. He is almost always asleep by 10:30. I have a 6 month old, but she's too little for a regular bedtime - depending what we do each day it can really throw her off! Ususally though she's asleep between 9:30 and 11:00.
@shymurl (2765)
• United States
6 Mar 08
My two oldest go to be at 8:30 on a school night. They know it and expect it every time. When its not a school night I let them stay up till about 10. The baby I try to lay down around 9:00 or 9:30, hes not so easy to go to bed, but I stick to it anyway.
@chris1314 (784)
6 Mar 08
When i was younger, i did have a bed time, but when i got to sort of 13 or so it got later and later, until i was 15 and i was allowed to go to bed whenever i got tired. By 16 or so i think that you know when you need to go to bed and get enough sleep. Also when you become teenagers you tend to like sleep and bed more! lol Chris
@beckyp (48)
• United States
6 Mar 08
Our son goes to bed at 7:30 every night. It definately helps to have a regular schedule. Even though he can't tell time, he starts getting ready for bed at the same time every night. We never have a problem with him going to sleep and we get the rest of the evening to ourselves!
@deedee30 (432)
• Spain
6 Mar 08
All week my 11 yr old goes to bed at 9pm and the 6 yr old goes to bed at 8ish, on a saturday night when no ody has to get up the next day they go to bed when they feel like it which isnt usually too late as they are so tired fom the rest of the week.