The Recent News On My Friend, Is Not Good
By Darkwing
@Darkwing (21583)
March 7, 2008 6:25pm CST
I'm sorry to say, I received some rather disturbing news tonight, about my friend and her loss. I'm sorry that I'm unable to break a confidence here, but I will update you as to the general state of her health, as I know many of you have her, and her husband and little angel, in your prayers and thoughts.
This is going to be very difficult for me to write, so excuse me if I ramble. I still haven't received any news as to how the tests went regarding the damage done to the uterus, but I can tell you that she's not coping very well at all at the moment. She has to spend another three weeks in hospital, and then, when she gets home, another two weeks in bed, there. As you can imagine, she is having difficulties with the guilt feelings, and is mentally exhausted on top of having to heal from her fractured pelvis. I guess this is going to be a long haul, firstly to get the pelvis strong again, then get through the physio, and all the time, with her mind on a different level of torment. For me, this is a tragedy... my heart aches for them both, but especially for her.
My thoughts, prayers and energies continue to go out to them as long as it takes, and I think that's going to be a very long time. So, please bear with me if sometimes I disappear for a while because after what I've learned in confidence tonight, I'm somewhat perplexed and angry, as well as desperately sorry for my friends. This has got to be one of the saddest, most heart-rending discussions I have ever had to write, and I hope I never have to do it again.
Walk on, little Angel in the peaceful, green Summerland, and always find comfort in the Arms of the Goddess. xx
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@Darkwing (21583)
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8 Mar 08
As a friend in here said to me the other day, Gabs, "This too shall pass." I know it will, but only after defeating all this pain and torture to the mind, will they finally see the light. With that ray of light, I am hoping against all hope that the news will be good regarding future possible parenthood. That's all there is to cling to right now.
Thank you for your sentiments, my dear friend. I'm just hoping they can find comfort in one another, rather than be torn apart by all this. Love you too... huggggs. xxxx
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
8 Mar 08
Hi Darkwing, I would like to say how very sorry I am that you are going through this rough patch..and to your friends I would like to put them in my prayers...There is only so much one can do at a very sad time as this, but even alittle is better than nothing...Bless the little angel...
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@Darkwing (21583)
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8 Mar 08
Yes, I agree, but if we can all join hands in a circle and concentrate all our little prayers and fragments of energies into one big, powerful one, spreading light around them, then we can make a big difference, my friend. Thank you for joining us, and for your sentiments. I can make it through the rough patch, but I'd like to bring them through with me, and your contribution is very much appreciated.
Brightest Blessings.
@addysmum (1225)
• Canada
8 Mar 08
My thoughts and prayers are with your friend. May her mind not hold the burden of guilt but surrender to the healing of forgiveness. May she find peace in her heart that her angel walks in light and love in her soul for their angel walk always at their side. My heart goes out to her for as a mothers we all carry her pain in our souls. Blessings to you, to the parents, to their sweat angel of love.
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
8 Mar 08
That was beautifully said addysmum, and no truer words were spoken...we all carry her pain.
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@addysmum (1225)
• Canada
8 Mar 08
While we all carry the pain of her loss. Unless we have lost a child ourselves, which I have not, we will never know the depth of the hurt that she feels. The thought of a loss like this crushes my heart and brings tears to my eyes. My words are words inspired by the divine, to inspire the hearts of those around this family. Many thanks for your praise of my words. I pray that this family will someday know the peace that the kind words shared here by all invokes. Only time and Spirit will heal their wounds but the love and support of friends and family will ease the burden they carry in their hearts. May everyone in their lives lift them up with their love.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
14 Mar 08
This is just so sad, my dear friend. I can only begin to imagine the pain and suffering; mental, physical and spiritual, that your friend and her husband are going through. I sincerely hope that she is getting some sort of guidence or counselling throughout the whole process. My thoughts are with you and her. Blessed be.
@Darkwing (21583)
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14 Mar 08
I daresay they are both getting some guidance. It's a pity my friend is unable to stay down there longer for he is an inspiration to them. However, he has his own problems and has to go into hospital on the 26th of this month. As soon as he's recovered though, he intends to go down. I don't know whether he'll take me, if I stay in a guest house or something, but I might ask. I'm putting together some bits and pieces of protection and healing value for her, as I feel she needs something to build her confidence again. She feels alone, and afraid at the moment, and is finding it difficult to come to terms with her loss. Hubby is suffering home alone because he feels her pain too, but cannot show it in front of her, and the tension is increasing, but they're both pretty down-to-earth people, and I'm sure with a little help from their friends, they'll come through this eventually. It's a hard trot... I know that from experience.
They are unable to do any more tests on the uterus until her pelvis has completely healed, and that could take several weeks. She has at least two more weeks in hospital, then at least two weeks complete rest at home, yet. So, all we can do is "pray" and send them healing energies at the moment, in the hope that nature heals her wounds, and leaves her able to conceive again. I feel so helpless, and frustrated that I can't hold back the tears my friend. It's times like these that you wish you could turn back the clock, and make things different, huh?
Brightest Blessings, and here's hoping you're on the road to recovery, as well. I haven't forgotten you... you're in my thoughts and prayers as well. xxx
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@Darkwing (21583)
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18 Mar 08
Yes, you are right, because she is still stuck in hospital, and he can only visit at certain times.
I've been really stressing out over this whole sorry affair. There is something not quite right here, and I've had a word with my friend closeby. I came up with the idea that a protection amulet, and pouch, might just ease some of her worries. My friend agreed, that he's sure they would help her. So, I'm in the midst of purchasing both, and when he's had his operation, and recovered enough to go down, he's going to take them down, and either perform a protection rite around them both, or be with her whilst she does it. They are all pagan, by the way.
During this rite, the amulet and pouch will be cleansed, blessed and charged and possibly their home as well. I'm hoping above hope that this will at least help her through her present traumas, and then will have to work on the fertility aspect. I just want to see them both healed, and laughing together again, like they used to. I am having trouble dealing with my own pain for them.
Brightest Blessings my dear friend and thank you so much for your greatly valued comments. You think very much as I do. Brightest Blessings.xxx
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
18 Mar 08
My friend, I'm feeling that these two people are not connecting at a certain level since the accident and this factor is detrimental to their healing. I feel that they need to not only heal individually in their different ways but they need to heal together as a couple as well. I'm possibly wrong but this is a pretty strong perception I'm having. There are broken energies around them. I wish I knew what to do to heal these dear folk who need each other more than ever at this time for the sake of their relationship. I am sending strong energy and healing light combined as I type. I so hope it helps.
And I haven't forgotten you either sweet lady...blessed be.
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@Leedsrbest1973 (127)
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25 Mar 08
This is very sad. I know what it's like to lose a child and would not wish it on anybody, especially your friends. I know how excited you were about making their gift because it was their first baby. I wish I could say something to help, because I know how upset you are. I'll just join everybody else with prayers and energies for them, the unborn baby, and you, Mum.
@Darkwing (21583)
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26 Mar 08
Awwwww, yes, more's the pity, so do I. ((((Hugggs))))
I wasn't just upset about the nappy cake, I hurt for them because I knew how elated they were. Their world crumbled in a few minutes with the fall, and now the news is not good as to whether she can conceive again. She's still in hospital now, poor girl.
Thank you for your prayers and energies, Ant. They'll be much appreciated, I know. x
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
8 Mar 08
I so sorry to hear this Darkwing, I don't know quite what to say. From the sound of it though your friend's injuries are indeed very serious not only physically but the mental turmoil as well. I wish she could understand though that she shouldn't feel guilty but then that's easier said than done. My prayers continue for her, her husband, and yes for that little angel now in the Summerlands
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@Darkwing (21583)
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8 Mar 08
No worries, Pye. I just wanted to update everybody who asked. I haven't enjoyed doing this one little bit, but it was only fair to let those who hold them in their prayers and thoughts, how things are progressing.
I say the guilt, because her husband thinks she is now trying to play this down, but whatever, her head is pretty messed up right now, as you can imagine. She has too many painful things to cope with at once. It's not easy for them to comfort each other and to grieve whilst she is in the hospital, either. They need their privacy, so badly, and to hug and comfort one another. I feel so helpless as to what I can do or say to help things become easier for them, because I know that only "togetherness" and privacy can help.
Thank you so much for your sentiments, and Brightest Blessings, my dear friend. x
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
8 Mar 08
Oh my how sad . I dont know really how to respond to this other than to say all my energies and prayers are going to them.
also hopefully she will turn her energies to getting well and getting thru therapy.
working hard to do that might help her in ways we cant, takes alot of energy to consintrate on getting well and the pain of going thru therapy.
And sounds like she needs alot of friends to be there to help her and him out of their funk.
I know this will take along time healing from the loss and thru all that has to be gone thru now. HUgs and blessing to all
@Darkwing (21583)
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8 Mar 08
Yes, my dear friend, it's difficult to put into words how we're feeling, but you don't have to say too much. Just your prayers and energies will join with ours, helping them to find the strength they need to get through this traumatic time. I think, for a while, they need some time alone. They need to heal each other with hugs, comfort and reassurance, but she has something playing on her mind, which she can't let go and he won't accept, so being apart most of the time, isn't helping.
They just need to know we're all here for them, and giving them all the support we can. Brightest Blessings. xxx
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
9 Mar 08
So sorry you have to shoulder such anguish. I guess we are all with you, praying for those in need. That's life. I found you rather compassionate and warm to your friends with the heart of an angel. Thanks for being my friend. May God bless you with indefinite strength :)
