THIS IS A SERIOUS QUESTION!! I always wondered if rape or molesting affects ...

@flowie (134)
South Africa
March 8, 2008 3:31am CST
i always wondered if children get raped or molested, what one causes the moste damage, i woud realy appriciate your opinion on this usue, my thoughts on this ussue, if you get reped, it is a deffenet fact of violance against you, you know what is happening and it can leave a lot of scares, but when you get molested, you get manupilated into certain things, that are very confusing, i think it takes people a long time to even admit that they have been molested, or that something actually happened to them, but i would think that it could affect your way of growing up, and the way you will see people for the rest of your life, just to figure out what happened is a challange on its own and then when you find out what happened you have to deal with the fact that it happened and then you have to start healing. Where when you get raped you know what happened and you can start the healing prosses. What do you think?
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@peedielyn (1210)
• United States
9 Mar 08
I, unfortuantely have had both happen to me. Being molested, the perv coaxed me into it, like it was okay. When I was raped a few years later--there was no coaxing. It was forced and more tramatic in the physical aspect. I never let it bother me,neither episode. I moved on. I was never going to let it bother me. I am still angry and have alot of hate for the persons involved but I don't let it affect me. I started the healing process years ago. I won't let someones stupid mistake affect me and my life. I am though more aware of my surroundings and I constantly know where my family is at any given point. I listen to rumors and comments about people like that, and don't mess around. I know self defense, and I am a kick boxer, so Im not one to be messed with and I know how to get out of the situation. God help them if I caught them touching one of mine!!!
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@flowie (134)
• South Africa
10 Mar 08
thank you so much for your comment, you are one of the lucky ones, i think not a lot of people make it, and you are very brave, healing does take some time, but i think on the end of the day it is you that decide if you whant to live or die.
@Ravenladyj (22940)
• United States
9 Mar 08
"Where when you get raped you know what happened and you can start the healing prosses. What do you think?" Being a survivor of both rape and child molestation I can say that neither is more or less damaging than the other....They are BOTH equally damaging..Bottomline is that they are both a violation of your body, personal space, your trust and your soul...
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@flowie (134)
• South Africa
10 Mar 08
you know i dont think people realy relize what they do to a human being and the damage they cause, it goes so deep, i am glad that i started this conversation because i think there is a lot of people out there that needs to talk about this ussue and they just do not how to, and only when you speak about it healing can start, thank you so much for your comment and i hope this message might help someone in their struggles.
@a1intnet (249)
• Mauritius
9 Mar 08
I think that both are such an invasion of your personal space that there really can't be any distinction between which one is harder to deal with.
@flowie (134)
• South Africa
10 Mar 08
thank you so much for your comment, both are a invasion, and the people that invade our space will never realy know what they do to people, or maby they have also been invaded when they were small, but for me there is no excuse, it is not to say when you have been reped or molested that you will do it to other people when you grow up. You have a choice.