how long is yourl love/relationship?

India
March 8, 2008 8:42am CST
In this world of frequent break-ups, divorce,mis-understanding,ego,jealous and suspicion, if you say you are in love/relationship for a long time I know you are special and above a normal person. Apart from obvious spot-on physical chemistry what is it that helps two people stay in love/relationship forever?
5 responses
• Bahamas
9 Mar 08
my boyfriend and ive been together for 14 years.and while we've had our ups and downs we still LIKE each other.we respect each other.and even to this day he still looks in my eyes and say i love you.
• Bahamas
26 Mar 08
Thanks for the best response. Glad i had something good to contribute.
@rmuxagirl (7561)
• United States
26 Mar 08
The relationship I am in now hasn't been very long, just over a month, but I was in one for 4 years prior to this one so I am very cautious about how things go becuase I really love the man I am with. I think communication, compromise, dedication and respect are a few things that keep two people together for a long period of time.
• United States
26 Mar 08
Me and my hubby have been together for 3 years and 1 month and have been married for almost 2 years. I don't see us ever breaking apart because we very rarely even fight. If we do it lasts maybe a few minutes and then one of us gives in and then we will talk about it. It is sad with divorce and break ups though.
@vera5d (4006)
• United States
8 Mar 08
I have been with my husband for almost 4 years. I know this isn't extremely long, but I've had friends who have been married & divorced already in half the time since I met him, lol. I think for us the biggest thing that helps is our sense of humor. My husband is the funniest guy in the world, I honestly think he could be a comedian...this helps immensely when things get stressful or difficult. The next big thing is complete honesty with each other. I know where he is and what he's doing and he knows where I am and what I am doing. If we don't like something, we tell each other. Another huge thing that people don't realize is simply cleaning up after yourself and helping with housework...I never have to clean up a mess my husband made - occasionaly he will do dishes or vaccum or whatever without me even asking. He always takes the garbage out which I hate to do! I do the rest most of the time - the laundry, the cleaning up after the kids, cooking, etc. etc. It is the nicest thing to know you never have to nag your partner - they do what they're supposed to do without asking. The other thing we do is always make sure we get at least a half an hour with each other after the kids go to bed for us to relax & enjoy each others company. I really think those 4 things have helped us stick it through. We always try hard to work together & solve whatever problems come our way.
@wickedangel (1636)
• Dominican Republic
8 Mar 08
I should think the words are 'love, understanding and respect' are some of the things that come to mind. The first is what makes us attracted to our partners, the second is also necessary along with forgiveness as we are all human and we all make mistakes. That leads to the third word 'respect' - there's not a lot of that about. Respect the other persons ideals, interests, friends etc., as certainly what comes around, goes around. It is easy to say all this but it is very hard to do it all. As you say, ego, jealousy and suspicion are easy to come up first in our emotions. Ho hum, let's see what other people think..