A Sad Time For My Family and We Found Out Through a Rumour.
By gemini_rose
@gemini_rose (16264)
March 12, 2008 7:12am CST
In January my son came home from school and said that he had heard a rumour that my husbands auntie had been diagnosed with cancer,this auntie is my husbands dads brothers wife, and he hadnt told anyone in the family, although it was a shock the doctors were optimistic and her outlook was good. However yesterday my son came home from school and said that he had heard that this auntie only had 2 weeks to live. So my husband phoned his dad and was told that it was true, her antibiotics were no longer working and they couldnt give her no more and she could have no more chemotherapy. It might be 2 weeks but it could well be less. The tradgedy is she is only 47 and her youngest child is only 13. I was best mates 10 years ago with one of the older daughters and I met my now husband through her, I feel so bad for them, as the years have gone on we have all become busy with our lives and children and I cant believe we found out about this through a rumour going around at school,twice, have we all drifted so far apart? Its so scary as she is only 14 years older than me and it brings it very close to home that we are not immortal. My husband used to spend every weekend with them but then as he grew up he stopped visiting, so now he feels guilty because he hasnt seen her for so long. How come something like this makes you stop and think? How come it makes you feel so guilty for not being around more? For not being more family orientated? Have you ever found out anything about your family through a rumour? Did it make you change the way you were with your family and make you spend more time with them?
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@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
12 Mar 08
I'm so sorry to hear about your aunt{inlaw} having cancer... it's a horrible desease. i know how guilty you can feel when something life changing happens to a relative and you have to hear it from some other source. but before you let guilt consume you remember that things change in our lives and when we have our families they become our first priorities. and yes it's happened to me before just in a different way... besides all i have to do is call my sister to find out what's going on with the family.. and i talk to her every day..i wish your family the best of luck.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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12 Mar 08
Thank you, it is so sad, I hate that I have found out through hearing it from a rumour, it seems so wrong especially when we all live so close to each other. I guess all I can do is be there for them all if I am needed and pray that she is in no pain.
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@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
12 Mar 08
just remember that a little prayer is worth so much to those in need. place everything in GOD's hand because who he keeps is well kept...i'm not a christen but this i believe.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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12 Mar 08
Thank you very much for your kind words, I hope she does not suffer, its too cruel.
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
15 Mar 08
So sorry to hear of this my dear friend 
and I want you to know that you have my prayers and support here! I pray that she has as little pain and suffering as possible and that the Lord comforts each member of the family....
Take Care
Love and Hugs
~Heavens~
and I want you to know that you have my prayers and support here! I pray that she has as little pain and suffering as possible and that the Lord comforts each member of the family....
Take Care
Love and Hugs
~Heavens~@gemini_rose (16264)
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15 Mar 08
Thank you very much, your kind words mean a lot to me, we have not heard any news yet she is still in the hospital, but she may be moved to a hospice, we are waiting to hear. Hope your cousin is doing ok, take care too.
@sophialin (2677)
• China
15 Mar 08
hi rose,i'm sorry to hear that.while i can clean understand you.i have a brother-in-law who was drowning at age 13.i didn't realise what family and relative really means for me until the unfortunate accident.
i should have paid more attention to him
i should have spent more time playing with him
i should have treated him better
…when he was alive
while all is too late,i can't see and touch him again.i was unable to see him the last time,coz i was out far away from home then.that unexpected accident took his life only left my miss and regret.
for us human being,we always won't realize what is the most precious thing for us until we lost it.
now i have taken more time spending with my parents and friends. that experience i won't to take again.
@gemini_rose (16264)
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15 Mar 08
I am so sorry to hear about your brother in law, that is really sad for you. I know what you mean we do not realise and we always leave everything until it is too late and then we live with the regrets and the ifs and buts. I am sure he will know how much you cared for him and if he could he would tell you not to be so sad. Take care.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
5 May 10
Hi, gemini_rose. The worst way to spread a rumor is when it is a sad rumor that could make others unhappy. His aunt was sick. No one should talk publicly about this. This is a very private matter. This should have been discussed amongst you all behind closed doors. People can be so heartless.
I am very sorry to hear about her and the condition that she is suffering from. I hope that you are all okay now. As this post was written three years ago. Some people don't have any shame on whom they hurt. I am very sorry that you had to found out all of this through a rumor. That is about the worst way that anyone can find something out.
I am very sorry to hear about her and the condition that she is suffering from. I hope that you are all okay now. As this post was written three years ago. Some people don't have any shame on whom they hurt. I am very sorry that you had to found out all of this through a rumor. That is about the worst way that anyone can find something out.