What have you read that changed your life? (minus the Bible)

@Kaeli72 (1229)
United States
March 12, 2008 12:48pm CST
I've read lots of things from many sources. Now, I have a Yahoo! 360* account and there's a friend of mine on there that always posts such inspirational stories. This one, has changed MY life: The Handshake (Excerpted from The Richest Man In Town) By V.J. Smith It's amazing what can happen just by paying attention. Besides, I never thought I would have a life-changing experience at Wal-Mart. I don't remember the exact date I met Marty for the first time. Up to that moment, nothing that day seemed particularly important - certainly not what brought me to the store in the first place. Like a lot of people who want to get through a checkout line, my thoughts were on speed, nothing more. The line I was standing in wasn't moving as quickly as I wanted, and I glanced toward the cashier. There stood an affable-looking man in his seventies. Slightly stooped and of average build, he wore glasses and a nice smile. I thought, well, he's an old guy and it probably takes him a little longer to get the chores done. For the next few minutes I watched him. He greeted every customer before he began scanning the items they were purchasing. Sure, his words were the usual, "How's it going?" But he did something different - he actually listened to people. Then he would respond to what they had said and engaged them in brief conversation. I thought it was odd, but I guess I had grown accustomed to people asking me how I was doing simply out of a robotic conversational habit. After a while, you don't give any thought to the question and just mumble something back. I could say, "I just found out I have six months to live," and someone would reply, "Have a great day!" This old cashier had my attention. He seemed genuine about wanting to know how people were feeling. Meanwhile, the high-tech cash register rang up their purchases and he announced what they owed. Customers handed money to him, he punched the appropriate keys, the cash drawer popped open, and he counted out their change. Then magic happened. He placed the change in his left hand, walked around the counter to the customer, and extended his right hand in an act of friendship. As their hands met, the old cashier looked the customers in the eyes. "I sure want to thank you for shopping here today." he told them. "You have a great day. Bye-bye." The looks on the faces of the customers were priceless.There were smiles and some sheepish grins. All had been touched by his simple gesture - and in a place they never expected. Some customers would walk away, pause for a moment, and look back at the old cashier, now busy with the next customer. It was obvious they couldn't quite comprehend what had just happened. They would gather their things and walk out the door smiling. Now it was my turn. As expected, he asked me how I was doing. I told him I was having a good day. "That's good", he said. "I'm having a good day, too." I glanced down at the name tag on his red vest, the kind experienced Wal-Mart cashiers wore. It read, "Marty." I said, "It looks like you enjoy your job, Marty." He replied, "I love my job." Marty told me how much I owed and I handed him some money. The next thing I knew he was standing beside me, offering his right hand and holding my change in his left hand. His kind eyes locked onto mine. Smiling, and with a firm handshake, he said, "I sure want to thank you for shopping here today. Have a great day. Bye-bye." At the moment I wanted to take him home and feed him cookies. It was as if Sam Walton had come back from the dead and invaded this old guy's body. I left the store, walked through the parking lot and got into my car. On the drive home I couldn't shake what had just happened. I had been in the store a hundred times and had never walked away feeling like that. Who was that guy? The Richest Man in Town is a true story that captures the important things in life in an unforgettable way. It is beautifully written and will make you laugh, make you cry, but most importantly, will make you reflect on what life is about.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Mar 08
Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach. The first time I read this book, I read it straight through sitting in my favorite chair at a friend's house. As soon as I was done reading it, my friend and I discussed it for hours, and by the next day, I was reading it again to catch things I had missed. It's the book I always pick up and read when I just want to read a page or two while thinking about something, and every time I pick it up I feel like I get something new out of it. There are a lot of books that have influenced my life, when I think about it. I'm a voracious reader, and I am very much affected by the things I read sometimes. If I had to pick one though, it's definitely Illusions
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@Kaeli72 (1229)
• United States
14 Mar 08
Wow, that's how I felt after reading the story. I felt I had to read it over and over again, just to get something I didn't catch before. I found myself thinking about my own life. See, I'm a very shy person and I tend not to look someone in the eye. But then, what if the other person thrives on eye contact? What if, my simple gesture of getting out of my comfort zone to say something other than, "fine, thanks" makes their day? Then let it be their day. Thanks for answering my discussion and I'll look out for that book you recomended. It will be a hard task for me to read it as I'm used to readind Dr. Suess and Disney. *lol*
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
14 Mar 08
I actually learned that same lesson you're talking about through a boss of mine. I have social phobias, and I always say pretty much the same things while dealing with customers because it keeps me in my comfort zones, but after a while a boss pointed out to me that the customers who liked me, who waited to see me even if another teller was open, who specifically asked for me... were always the people I had come out of my shell with and really talked to. It made me think about how I interact with people in general, and how sometimes conquering my social phobia isn't just good for me, but for the people around me as well. *nods* "Illusions" is not a hard read, though it is kind of deep. The style is rather simple, but sometimes you realize that the author is talking about more than one thing with a specific metaphor or story.
@Swaana (1205)
• India
16 Mar 08
It was not a story, but a quote that made me think and understand my own life in a different angle. The quote is THIS WILL ALSO PASS BY - BE IT GOOD OR BAD. I keep this in my mind always and so I am able to move on without any much of loaded heart.
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@Kaeli72 (1229)
• United States
16 Mar 08
Amen to that! I was at the lowest part of my life and a friend of mine (The very one I got that story) said nearly the same thing. It was because of her encouragement that kept me going forward with more strength than I had had I done this journey on my own. Thanks for responding.
• United States
12 Mar 08
I don't think that I could say that something I read about someone else has changed my life (other than the Bible). Most of the things that have changed my life were the experiences I have personally had. Things similar to the story that you've mentioned. Whether it's from people who are rich to people who are mentally handicapped. Many things have touched my life and I have many stories I could share, but I can't think of a story that I have read!
@Kaeli72 (1229)
• United States
12 Mar 08
I dunno. After reading the above story, I realized that people, strangers...they would like more than just a "Hello" or a simple look. They want a warmer greeting/closing. When I read that story for the first time, I too wanted to bring Marty home with me and feed him lots of cookies.
@Dest274 (100)
• United States
16 Mar 08
i read aletter that my aunt wroe that said i will not graduate have a lot of kids and be nothing for the rest of my life i graduated i did have a son and i also went t college still progressing
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@Kaeli72 (1229)
• United States
16 Mar 08
Bravo! Nothing feels worse than having your family members think poorly of you...but nothing feels better than to shoved what they've said to you in their faces with proof of your sucess. Congrats on your graduation...but most importantly, on your son. Always have kind words and encourage him from day one...they thrive on praises and die under critiscism. (hey, I like that line...I'll have to use it again!)